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How often do you see your Mum?

65 replies

Northerner · 08/03/2006 19:17

I ask because sometimes I feel guilty for not seeing enough of her. She lives about 1 hour drive away from me but I don't drive yet so rely on dh taking me. He works most weekends so when he is off we want to spend it together. We get to see my parents about every 6 weeks. We speak every day for 20 mins/half an hour. She calls at bath time/bedtime and I work and have a social life so if I can't talk to her for long, she gets a bit huffy, and says I have no time for her, which makes me feel bad. Dh gets annoyed she makes me feel like this, and says if she had a job/something to do she wouldn't be like this.

I am an only child and she is quite needy and gets upset that she is not involved with my ds on a day to day business.

My Mum and Dad don't drive so rely on us going to them.

It is so difficult pleasing everyone.

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Blandmum · 08/03/2006 20:35

About once every 6 weeks. She lives a 5 hour drive away and has been in a psychiatric hospital for over 4 years. She has no idea who I am....or who she is either really. All very sad.

I'm driving down to see her this weekend. Dh stays home with the kids....it is too traumatic for them tbh. Sad

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flutterbee · 08/03/2006 20:38

Iused to only see my Mum once or twice a year when we lived 300 miles apart but would speak all the time.

Now we live about an hour apart (soon to be half an hour as I'm moving again) and I don't drive and my husband works alternate weekends (with days off in the week instead) and I manage to see my Mum at least once a week and when I learn to drive I dare say it will be a little more often.

I just look at DS and wonder what it would be like when he's older if he made me feel like he had no time to see me, and besides I really enjoy going to my Mums it always so busy there and being one of seven thats just how I like it Grin

7up · 08/03/2006 21:39

nearly every day and on the phone at least 3 times a day

elastamum · 08/03/2006 21:51

I try and see my mum at least once a month, we live quite a long way away and we talk every day before bedtime. I ususally ring her to wake her up to go to bed as she falls asleep in front of the telly. I wish we lived nearer as she is getting frail and could do with more help from me than she gets. My brother is fantastic and goes to see her twice a day Smile

Hulababy · 08/03/2006 21:53

I live about 50 minutes away from my parents. We see them on average every 2-3 weeks. I talk to my mum on the phone maybe 1-2 times a week text a bit more often.

mistressmiggins · 08/03/2006 22:04

every day apart from Tues and Sat
speak every day regardless of whether seeing her later or not (THAT annoys my dadGrin)

love it

hated it when they lived 1hr away

tortoise · 08/03/2006 22:26

Im Envy of those who see their mum regularly.Miss my mum loads now i dont see her.Would love to visit but need to get me and 4 kids passports.Have never flown before and would have to do it alone with 4 kids!

7up · 08/03/2006 22:33

tortoiseSad i wouldnt wana fly on my own with my 2. im very lucky that ive managed to stay in the same village that i was born in

MarsLady · 08/03/2006 22:34

6 months a year. She lives in Jamaica and comes over for 6 months.

nightowl · 08/03/2006 23:52

every day, she lives in the next street.

ghosty · 09/03/2006 00:09

Every 18 months or so Sad
But then I live in NZ and she lives in the UK.
When we do see eachother we are together every day for at least 3 weeks.
We speak on the phone once a week ...

Screwballmuppet · 09/03/2006 00:15

1 yr - 18 months Sad not my choice.
My dad I see 1-2 times a week sometomes more

suzywong · 09/03/2006 00:17

looks like it's going to pan out in a similar way to ghosty {hello}

But it's an intense three/four weeks and actually we fit in far more time that the 6 or 7 trips down the M3 for a couple of days a year when we lived in the UK

Smurfgirl · 09/03/2006 00:33

I see my mum every 6 weeks or so, I have not seen her in her own home this year. My mum lives 2 hours away from me and I don't drive, and she works full time and I do so its hard. My mum gets so stressed so when I do get home we end up arguing and I get frsutrated, I miss her loads.

We speak 2-3 times a week, if I ring more I am seen as weird. Ho hum.

brimfull · 09/03/2006 00:45

Not enough,they live in Canada.Last saw her last september,she's coming over in June so generally once /twice year.

Hope my dd doesn't move to a different country to me when she's older

anniemac · 09/03/2006 11:28

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muma3 · 09/03/2006 11:38

i never see my mum . the last time was may at my nans funeral . she hasnt wanted anything to do with me since i was a child and havent had a good relationship with her . probably wont see her again but its her loss not mine. Smile

nutcracker · 09/03/2006 11:44

Usually at least every other day, but then she does only live a 3 min walk away.

mili · 09/03/2006 13:49

my mom lives in another country, saw her last in Aug. suppose to see her this summer, hopefully. so that's about a year or so.
miss her loads.:(

MaloryTowers · 09/03/2006 13:51

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NomDePlume · 09/03/2006 13:53

My Mum lives 1h 45min away from me, up awkward crappy roads. We see each other once a month and speak once a week on average. We have a v good relationship, more sisterly than mother/daughter

fimbo · 09/03/2006 13:54

Speak to her about twice a week. See her about 3 times a year - lives an 8hr car journey away.

lucy5 · 09/03/2006 14:11

every day more or less but she does live just opposite me, so it can be a bit much sometimes.

saadia · 09/03/2006 14:29

Every couple of weeks but we speak every day on the phone and she sometimes comes to stay for a few days.