Ok, sooo...difficult situation and feeling less independent...

[FerociousFerret]

I have been through a really hard time over the past few years, I feel a bit broken now. Lots of things have gone wrong.

I was really disturbed last night however as when I picked my boyfriend up on something horrible he had said to me he got extremely defensive, called me 'fucking dense' and 'a fucking idiot'. He also hurt my hand. Thing is, I'm so less independent and resilient than I was before. I am not sure how to move on and make progress.

Abuse. Leave him.

You dump the nasty little shit. Saying 'something horrible' was a bad start, verbal abuse is quite wrong and hurting hands is game over. He's just a boyfriend which is a by-word for 'dispensible'.... Ditch him and your self-esteem will go up a few points.

End it. It will only get worse as time goes on and one day you will look in the mirror and not recognise your own reflection. You won't know how it happened but it saps away insidiously.

Yuck... Get rid of him.... End of story.... No decent man says and does things like that!

Sweetheart, you were ripe for the picking then with the horrible arse.

Get shot of him and work on yourself.

If a friend of yours said and did that you'd think they hated you. It's no different because he's your bf.

Ooops OP, didn't mean you had a horrible arse by the way I meant he was a horrible arse.