DP wants me to abort baby :(

[VeremyJyle]

Ever since I found out I was pregnant (nearly 3weeks ago) DP has said he doesn't want the baby, it was an accident, I was on the coil, I got over the shock alot quicker than he has. He came to scan (to see if coil was still in) and he went a shade of green when the image of a sac came up (they said its very early, roughly 4-5 weeks) I have another scan to tomorrow (6-7 weeks) and he's coming but he said today I really need to think about an abortion. I really don't want one and he knows this, he says he doesn't want to lose me eventhough I pointed out if he forced me to abort then he would lose me. He says we could have a baby in a few years but there's so much he wants us to do together.
I don't want to get rid of my baby, even if it wasn't planned it exists now, but I feel like he's making me choose. I don't know how to move forward from here, I'm in tears just writing this, I can barely talk to anyone in RL, hardly anyone knows I'm expecting and I don't want anyone to think bad of DP :(

I think the fact is, unless he changes his mind, no matter what, your relationship is over - if you abort because if you don't you'll lose him and be a single mother, than you'll never forgive him and it will be the end of your relationship (it will be the end even if you do limp on together for a while); or you go through with it and he doesn't want the baby, you limp along for a while and then it distroys your relationship.

so i think planning on being a single mum is for the best. Good luck!

Oh good for you! Remember that it's possible that this relationship would not have lasted long anyway because he's clearly a bit of a knob so it would never have been worth going against your own wishes and feelings for the sake of a bloke you've only been seeing for a short time.

He might grow up and some point and become a supportive co-parent - or he might not. But single parenthood is perfectly possible and can be a lot of fun, too. Best of luck.

This happened to me op; I dumped the guy and kept the baby. Not ideal but no regrets!

Oh yeah I got the selfish line too op; truth is these so called 'men' are the selfish ones!

I don't think he sounds like a nice but confused guy op like some of the others. i think he sounds like a dick. A nice guy would not pressure you either way and would support your decsion instead of emotionally black mailing you.