DP's choice of porn

[NotACougar]

Hi ladies,

Have namechanged to post this as I'm quite embarrassed but..

Tonight I came on the laptop that me and DP share. I have always know DP watches porn and that doesn't bother me at all. He has always wiped the internet history when he has watched porn (not bothered by this either - would rather that than 'youporn' popping up everytime it try and go on youtube!

Anyway - he watched porn the other night whilst I was out with friends and obviously forgot to wipe the history. The thing that's bothering me is his choice of porn. It's not 'weird' porn at all but it seems he's into 'older' women.

Now I'm not talking granny-porn here! I mean 40something cougars seducing younger men. We are both in our mid 20s and I am younger than him, so this is something that I definately do not fulfill for him!

He has mentioned briefly to me before that he has had relationships at Uni with older women but I never thought anything of it, and now I've become obsessed!!

There is an older women (late 30's) that he works with that quite clearly has a thing for him, and I've always laughed and thought it was quite funny but now I'm worrying! The porn really focused along the 'seducing housewife' storyline. It scares me that he's into this because my crazy mind is telling me this could easily happen in real life :(

Am I being crazy? Do I have anything to worry about??

OP, you have to be careful. Unbelievable but I've been pursued for a very longtime now by a younger guy with a stead GF! He's late 20s. I once went on a younger men's dating site (just after a split from an older partnmer who i ended up loathing) for mental distraction, and he contacted me on there (I had a photo) we talked on the phone. Only later transpired he's dating someone his age on and off, so I didn't want to meet. He told me he has fantasies about older attractive women and had a fewflings in the past, but socially feels it's 'proper' to have a same age GF. Now have been steady for nearly 2 yrs, and yet he is still sending me emails (thankfully hasn't got my number anymore) aslking to meet or asking whether we can at least meet as friends. He went on in quite a detail how he likes an older woman to dominate ot let him 'talk her into it' as another option, and that he is a romantic sould who wants something unconventional. Pissed me off as he is a hypocrite by still choosing a conventiona front AND lying to GF. No idea how good their r-ship is but nevertherless, an older woman would a secret, he wouldn't drop the GF. Maybe see if he IS on such sites, and also ask yourself whether he is generally an honest person and has intergrity, or would he lie if something for offered to hi, I don't know whether he met other women on that site, but if I said yes and agreed to sleep with him, he would jump at the chance, so possibly he slept with a few who would. Some older women obv wouldn't care about a gf, takes all sorts. Maybe try and check dating site activities if you can, but I think you also need to talk to him, see whether he can look you in the eye and say he wouldn never act on it. You have a right to ask you know, not everyome uses porn and he should at least answer any questions you may have if aer ok with in principle.

*was offered to him

drank having searched your name I'm not surprised you've been reported. Bit of a posting theme you've got going on there...

I didn't watch porn to try and coolly impress boys during my college years.

I watched and read porn because I was genuinely interested in it, and got an idea of what I thought I would and wouldn't do.

Yes I am certain that some women are bullied into the porn industry, but I have actually read porn actor blogs/posting sites in the past, and for some people it is a career.

Ethically produced porn would be a huge opportunity. I'm surprised no-one has marketed it yet. Maybe it will come out of some more pragmatic country - like the Netherlands. Porn and sex is more out in the open in Europe than the UK, yet the countries don't seem to be spiralling into a state of depravity at all, teen pregnancy and HIV rates are lower, as are the divorce rates.

Wow, I really didn't mean to start a full discussion about the ethics of porn use! I don't know enough about it to have an educated opinion and so I won't comment on that.

likeatonofbricks, I don't think DP has ever been on a dating website as far as I know! I don't think he's cheating/planning on cheating. I brought it up with him a few nights ago and he said he just likes that fantasy among others. Nothing is ringing any alarm bells in that department so I hope I'm not being naive there!

How exactly would I check if he is on cougar dating websites anyway?!

if you are talking about his fantasies and he is open and honest I don't think you have much to worry about.

Perhaps he is a bit embarassed about doing something that is seen as unconventional.

If you want to re-enact I have a tabbard and a pair of Hush Puppies I can loan you?

Am I missing something here?...Why has drank been reported?

Thanks, bertiebots.As you are a muse fan, i take that as a compliment.
This place completely lives up to its reputation.
my reporting button works, too.
Way to throw a thread off track, people.

Off track yes, but I am now cunningly plotting a plan to start up an Ethical Porn company which I won't be starring in starting with Cougar Porn which I am old enough to participate in.

yup, rape is a bit of a "heavy" subject, ain't it

what a fucking drag it must be to see the mention of that "heavy" word, spoiling your enjoyment of "adult entertainment"

what humourless killjoys some of us are this thread, eh

we must hate sex too < yawn >

Lidl I thnk you will find there is already "ethically" produced porn but the majority of porn users are not really interested in it, so it remains a "niche" corner of mainstream shite which largely consists of dreaming up more and more ways in which to demean women

funny, that

OP, but if you aer not worried, what was your question? I thought that exactly what worried you, whether he'd ct on it.
You could go to the site and put his age /location in a search and then profiles would come up, but if there is no photo, it's a bit futile! if he never lies and is not secretive, then why worry? assuning you also have fantasies that don't involve him and he knows, then all fine.