If you are a SAHM do you.....

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cook the meals do cleaning, washing and shopping etc? Or do you share the chores?
I am a SAHM and am quite happy to cook the evening meal every day. I do it during the day also put the washing machine on and do the odd bit of ironing. We do have a cleaner because neither of us like cleaning but as I am at home with one DD I don't mind doing the other stuff at all. Reading some of the posts on MN makes me wonder what others do. Some people seem to say No Way would they do all that and DP does half of everything as childcare is full time job too. To be honest I probably spend half an hour to an hour a day doing 'chores' the rest of the time I have to spend with DD. I feel I am the one who gets off lightly because I can do what I want when I want most of the day - parks, coffee out, swimming, play centres. Hardly a tough life. When my DH gets back from work he is tired and it seems silly to 'make' him do his share of the cooking or whatever just to ake sure we are equals. What does anyone else do in this situation? Would I feel differently if I had more children? TO be honest DD (2.5) is a very good, easy and contented child

Forgot; dh does cooked breakfast for the children both weekend mornings - omelettes, bacon, whatever they want. Also brings me tea in bed, also at the weekends.
I think it's a fair division; we both think we work hard!

I do everything (superwoman emoticon pls), housework (ahem, quite crap but sort of get done) ironing, shopping, cooking, kids, car servicing, bills & paperwork) etc etc. He's often late back, so usually do bedtime routine & clearing away dinner things, oh and look after 3 little ones, 2 of whom are only outat Kindergarten half days.

But at the w/e he often cooks ( my least favourite job). I could get a cleaner if i wanted, but don't like having people in my house, family included, but I haven't found a way to get rid of them ye lol

I'm ok with the arrangement, he works long hours, he's good to us all. i'm not sure I'm in the camp of sahm that expect dh's to do 50 % chores, a bit cheeky imo, but then that's only mo

I think the important thing is that dh's would do 50% of chores if necessary. I know that if my dh comes home and I haven't cooked a meal for him and the pace is a tip, because we've been out, or the kids have been needing lots of attention, he won't mind at all - he recognises that my days can sometimes be just as hard as his, and that if I say I have't had time to do something then it's because I haven't, not because I haven't been bothered (well mostly )

I do think that it is important to remember that a SAHM's full time job is childcare - not husband care. Especially when babies are small and more demanding of attention, and a first time mother is getting to grips with teh new job. in those days dh would come home after a hard day at work and look after me - now I look after him.

Oh yes prufrock it is different when you are thrown in at the deep end with your first small baby. But once they get to be a toddler with (assumption here I know) regular naps it is a different proposition.

I have 3 children and do cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping, finances and iron mine and kids clothes. My dh irons his own clothes and sometimes he might do the children's or mine if we are in a hurry to get somewhere. He gets up with children every morning and makes them breakfast (I have table set and things ready to go night before) and brings me a cup of tea in bed. I am a sahm and I expect to do these things for the privelage to stay at home with the children. If I worked full time I would want to share a bit more of the chores.