If you are a SAHM do you.....

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cook the meals do cleaning, washing and shopping etc? Or do you share the chores?
I am a SAHM and am quite happy to cook the evening meal every day. I do it during the day also put the washing machine on and do the odd bit of ironing. We do have a cleaner because neither of us like cleaning but as I am at home with one DD I don't mind doing the other stuff at all. Reading some of the posts on MN makes me wonder what others do. Some people seem to say No Way would they do all that and DP does half of everything as childcare is full time job too. To be honest I probably spend half an hour to an hour a day doing 'chores' the rest of the time I have to spend with DD. I feel I am the one who gets off lightly because I can do what I want when I want most of the day - parks, coffee out, swimming, play centres. Hardly a tough life. When my DH gets back from work he is tired and it seems silly to 'make' him do his share of the cooking or whatever just to ake sure we are equals. What does anyone else do in this situation? Would I feel differently if I had more children? TO be honest DD (2.5) is a very good, easy and contented child

I'm a SAHM and do most things around the house - cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing etc. DH works long hours, when we both worked we shared the jobs but I always said that when I became a SAHM I would do most. I have 2 dd's, one at preschool and one at home. I try to get most jobs done before the weekend, so we get to do family stuff then. He will help out if I'm doing things,

I do everything - well actually the cleaner does the cleaning once a week, a lovely lady does the ironing and the gardener does the gardening. But I do everything else! Tidying, washing, cooking, shopping, bilss and finances etc.

DH leaves home at 6.45am and gets back at 6:45pm. But I do count teh 1h 15min each way train journey as his free time, since we shelled out for the first class ticket so he is guaranteed a seat. So that to me gives him an equivalent break in his day that I get during the hour after lunch that ds is asleep and dd gets to watch CBeebies.

Once he gets home dh baths the kids whilst I prepare dinner/finish tidying (tonight is different as he has been working from home). And as he usually does extra work in the evening I clean up after our dinner, and use the evenings to finish off the organisational stuff (decorating projects/investments) that i haven't been able to do during the day. At weekends we both do equivalent amounts.

I do all the housekeeping etc except cooking. DH often cooks our dinner (when he's home!)because he likes it. He cooks at the weekend too.

I do all the day to day stuff (cooking, cleaning, laundry etc) however DH and/or I will do the extra stuff like cleaning oven/fridge/deep clean of rooms as and when it needs doing depending on who is free. Oh and I don't iron, that is to say I do iron our clothes in the morning as we need them and DH does his own shirts.

I do all of the general housework and def all the cooking.
dh does do the dishes/kitchen in the evening and some ironing at the weekend.
I don't mind it altho it has been harder since dd2 was born 3 1/2months ago....didn't realise how easy I had it before then!

I have a cleaner twice per week - once for the cleaning and once for the ironing, but my standards are high so I do plenty of maintenance cleaning in between.

Generally do the lion share of the chores during the week - like most other posters think this is reasonable as that is my 'job' and dh has long days (leave house by 07.15 and doesn't return until 19.30), however if I still have stuff to do at say 9.00 pm and he is watching Sky Sports then he has tasks assigned to him.

Also at weekends I expect more of a hands on input from him, plus I also have a 'cooking holiday' (we eat out for our main meal every Saturday and Sunday).

lazy cow
what do you do all day then

Bugger all, mostly!

But it is truly exhausting

oh fgs
get scrubbing you idel mare

adn your dh works for 12 hours
pah ! rubbish
try goign to west coast america for two weeks
:O)

lol! seriously though, I do a fair bit of ..erm..scrubbing. Mop kitchen floor daily, hooever frequently. Bit obsessive re clean and tidy home...

You're on form tonight I see...

oooh can I have cleaner please!

I'd even let Anthea if she'd do all the house work

hmc if you are obseesive celaner you are prone to panic attacks

did you kwno that

Really?

I've not had one yet...but there is always a first time I suppose...

oh yes
read it sowmhwre
very true for pal of mine

Ummm - well I get irritable and drink too much. Perhaps that's my alternative to panic attacks.

I am SAHM ,have a cleaner (but tbh she's crap).

I do all the cleaning/tidying etc.Don't do ironing.

I do most of cooking but dh loves cooking so he does it when he has a day of.Dh works 6 days a week sometimes so anytime he has at home is generally spent with the children.

take it in turns to cook but I do dinner most nights - BUT dh cooks for the girls - who eat earlier than us.

Both do the cleaning, I do the shopping - he stays at home with the girls whilst I do the grocery shopping.

I do washing and usually ironing or if I don't get to it dh will iron his work clothes.

Oh to be a SAHM and have a cleaner twice a week!. I have neither. It would be a choice between a cleaner and a holiday and I do love having a holiday.

I do the majority, but DH does stuff too! He see's childcare as my a job in its own right and would never comment about the house been a mess etc as long as the children were happy!

I used to do all the housework, take kids to the park and other activities every day,look after my business which was very full time and cook the evening meal and bath the ds then out him to bed. I also went to college and had another job for 2 evenings a week. then i broke my leg so dont do alot now but hope to resumme shortly.

i'm a sahm too, with 4 children between 2 and 12. My dh leaves the house 7.15am daily and is rarely back before 8pm. He therefore doesn't really do any housework. Occasionally he is able to work from home but there's no pattern to it. I do all the food shopping, cooking - I like to cook with a glass of wine on the go! -(occasionally he'll make a chilli or a curry, something easy, at the weekend). I do have a cleaner but still do the kitchen myself daily. I'm lucky too in that I have a mother's help every afternoon for 3 hours; doesn't get me "time off" but does allow me to do the myriad of school/ activity pickups without everyone in tow all the time. Usually I leave the little one with her and pick up the bigger ones from whatever they're doing. 2 eldest boys sometimes use a school bus, so they walk home from the bus stop and she's there to meet them if I'm collecting dd(7). It also means I can do school meetings , attend concerts etc without my boisterous toddler...
Dh is rarely there in the evenings when ds3 and dd go to bed, but he sees ds1 and 2.
He does most of the household admin, will do things involving getting up on ladders, etc, but no housework on a regular basis. I feel my mother's help takes up the slack that he would cover were he home earlier in the day.

I have a friend with a dh in the same profession, who imo is a bit arsey about "taking turns" with her dh on the cooking front, even though he's not home early either; or he gets his own. I think that's a bit bleak in that a convivial meal together is important to us, but each to their own I suppose.