Thing is, cali, there's a sort of feverish quality to your posts. An opaque circularity to your thinking that seems - shut. A tad obsessive. But I am sure it's difficult to feel as strongly as you do in a world which largely opposes your preferences/desire for self-expression. Understandably, you are defensive.
I am fine with men cross-dressing. If that's what they want. Fine. I wouldn't want to engage with it myself (sexually with a man in drag) but have had a couple of brief relationships with men with tranny leanings. At no point did I want to see them dressed up but was happy to chat about it. They didn't push it. Respected my feelings.
You know - that's my right: to decide what I want to engage with, or not.
It's your right to wear whatever you want.
I think the idea that a man wants to dress up as a woman (the stereotype of being slathered in make-up, stuffed bra, etc) because it gives them a sexual thrill - and then be seen - well, I am uncomfortable with the exhibitionism of that. I don't want to be used as a viewer in a sexual ritual orchestrated by a stranger: I wouldn't want to be flashed at, either.
But I recognise that's not what you are into - although describing your 'sensual' pleasure muddies things a little.
It's as if this thread gives you a sort of release. Has something happened to trigger you returning to it? Are you ok?
There's a young guy who lives near me, quite boho and hippyish, who has long flowing curls and wears sarong-like or floaty skirts. He looks great. It doesn't look like he's dressed as a woman, he just looks like himself 