Well OP it seems that we are destined to be ships that pass in the night. I have caught up with the debacle debate and am going to make one massive post so that it will be easier for you to see my questions and respond.
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So, here we go
regards bra stuffing, if i dress to blend at a cd meeting yes i wear a bra and fill it, but the bottom line is if i had choice to dress as a man in "finery" i wouldn't bother as is frankly neither comfortable nor necessary
Ah, now I might be about to learn something here. Are you saying OP that even when at a cd meeting, you cannot just wear a skirt? You have to go the whole hog and stuff a bra? Unbelievable.
The very group that are asking to be accepted are discriminating against you? Is that right?
Or do you choose to wear a bra and wig.
i use cd meetings because they are the safest way of being dressed withiut recrimmination and to meet others other similar outlook, and dreess up fully at them cos everyone else does and yes its nice to dress up once in an while
Which is it, to conform or choice?
You are full of contradictions. Could you please clarify something. In an ideal world would you want to be a man in a skirt or would you want to be a man dressed as a woman?
You are making it sound as if you don?t really want to do the whole bra and wig thing but you do it because a) it helps you blend in and b) it?s fun to dress up!
The safest way of being dressed without recrimination
Recrimination from who? Surely you could arrive in the wig and bra and then once you are safe inside, remove them and just be yourself?
Or are we then back to the fact that you are choosing to dress in wig and bra because you prefer it? Which is it. You are not clear.
i don't bother with femme name as that as you say does come across as mimicry and thats not what i'm about
Or is it? What are you doing when you wear the wig and bra, if not mimicry?
i don't think the wearing of a dress should in any way undermine my masculinity in the same way the wearing of a trousers has in any way undermined womens feminity
It doesn?t! Have you actually read the thread? No-one has said that. We have all said that men around the world wear ?dress? type garments. For example in the Middle East and Africa and Asia and parts of Europe.
They don?t wear wigs and stuff bras, nor should you if that?s not what you want.
its the attitudes at cd meetings as to how good they appear dressedup. i repeat, i'd rather there wasn't the social pressure to look like women but better to just be men in dresses. and alot of cds end up conforming cos thats the scene and thats where most acceptance is
Here it is again. They sound like knobends. What are doing hanging around with people like that if it?s not what you believe, not what you want and not doing your self esteem any good.
What do you gain from meetings? Validation? Certainly not. Acceptance? Nope. Not that I can see from your posts.
Please would you explain what it is you get from meetings in full drag that you couldn?t get just dressed in a skirt. TIA
padding bras or wearing a skirt is nothing to do with stereotyping women. its got everthing to do with wearing a skirt and then trying to avoid being ridiculed for doing so by trying to appear like the type of person who is accepted to be wearing a skirt. If a man could wear a skirt with no recrimmination, then there would be no need to pretend to be a woman by padding a bra
Like I said, men do and they don?t wear bras. There have been enough examples already on this thread. Who would you rather look like Eddie Izzard or Lily Savage? That?s your choice.
Why is there recrimination for a man dressed as a man and just wearing a skirt/dress but no recrimination for a man in full drag? Could you give some examples of your experiences. Who finds it more acceptable for you to wear a wig and bra? Genuninely, I am baffled by that one as it seems to me that if someone is going to attack you for wearing a skirt, surely that fact that you have all the trappings on isn't going to stop them?
And if it?s really what you want then maybe you should start your own club and march to Downing Street or something. Do something to make it more acceptable if that?s the only thing that?s stopping you.
I uderstand that you want to protect your kids but you can raise awareness without involving them more than you are comfortable with. I certainly think you could wear a skirt at home in front of them a la David Beckham. What's wrong with that?
Either way, time to burn your bra don't you think?
I think that?s it for now but if any other questions spring to mind, I?ll let you know 
< worries that the thread will fill up before I get any sensible answers >