Help me please, I aam mortified and feel so sick :(

[mortifiedwife]

Obviously name-changed, well, I made a whole new account just to be sure, this is a vile horrid situation

I feel sick even typing this.

I was in bed with my H, in the middle of sex, and I shit myself. I'm not even ill, nothing like this has ever happened to me before, never, why now? It was runny... sorry... I thought it was H 'finishing', he practically ran from the room... oh god he went in the bathroom while I was crying and cleaning up, he didn't say a word, and has walked straight out of the bathroom and out of the house

I am now sat here crying my eyes out, mortified, humiliated, I feel sick to the pit of my stomach I do not want him to come home, ever, I can't face him ever again. What if he thought I did it on purpose?! Why did he walk out?

Help me, god, please, I am turning inside out with humilation please tell me this has happened to someone else?? I feel like running away before he comes home because I can't face it. This is the end of my marriage

LOL izzy. I'm a health care practitioner. Thus I speak the lingo of nether regions :o although I hasten to add that I have nothing to do with them in my professional life :o

I also had a massive tear during JB's birth so I know more about malfunctioning sphincters than I ever wanted to .

and I promise to never again bring up the subject of sphincters on an average week night :o

He has returned, brief awkward conversation and then he went to bed.

Apparently it was the shock combined with the lack of blood supply to his brain which made him panic and run away. He apologised, gave me a cuddle, but didn't say much else.

I couldn't look him in the eye, I feel revolting. A whole new wave of embarrassment is washing over me now he's back.

You poor things! I feel very sorry for both of you, I don't know that I would have completely left the house, but I might have shot away downstairs in his position (depending on the smell level, sorry)

Obviously it was an awful accident, he doubtless knows that - I expect he's almost as ashamed of his reaction as you feel.

Question for you though - would you feel as bad as you do if he hadn't left the house? Is your mortification coming from yourself as much/more than his reaction? I know mine would be, that's why I'm asking. (I really don't deal well with poo at all)

It's 99% coming from me, not his reaction. I think I would have been more mortified if he had stayed, asking me questions or helping me clean up, urgh, I would have died of shame

Yes, I think I'm with you on that - I couldn't have borne it either!
I much prefer to deal with my shame in private.

You both need some kind of mind scrub now, hey!

I have had a similar sudden emission while out going to visit a friend - "luckily" they were out and I had to drive home in a very uncomfortable position, trying not to sit down (bracing my feet in the footwell to prevent sitting - it wasn't easy!). Wasn't ill, no obvious reason for it, never happened again. Well, not in about 16y, which is about how long ago it happened.

Honestly, shit happens. Paula Radcliffe shat herself in front of millions while running a marathon. No one gets through a long marriage without exposure to all of each others' bodily fluids and waste products. It will be fine. You will both get over it.

I thought she only did a roadside wee, Lizza.

Don't worry, this happened to me once in a hotel. The guy it happened with was a complete cunt and now I can look back and be glad I pooed on him.

I can understand your embarrasment but it is not the end of the world nor should it be the death of your relationship. His reaction was rather extreme but he sounds OK about it now so try to put this in perspective!
There are people who pay to have his experience!
Hopefully you will both be able to laugh about it in a short while !

OP don't feel bad, I made this thread a few days ago www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1521514-i-just-pooed-myself, it might make you feel better, or at least give you a good laugh!

i pooed my self in front of my bf , he isnt even my husband lol. we had just been out for dinner and I was standing in the kitchen and bam suddenly there was shit running down my legs. mortified, YES, however his first words were, jesus are you ok. because he though I was bleeding lol. untill i pointed out that it was shit and raced off to the bath room to stop the river of poo. i have to agree that your husbands reaction was weird, do you have children together?

Oh you poor thing. Please try not to worry too much. It was an accident, albeit a very embarrassing one! Your husband is unusually squeamish I think, but it would have been embarrassing for anyone. He loves you just the same, I'm sure. Just give it a couple of days and you'll both feel much better about it.

Seriously your husband needs to get a sense of perspective. Really it is not an issue. I suspect you haven't got kids. If you have then was he at the birth? Once they have seen all of that there are few taboos left!

You'll survive this I am sure. He though sounds strange. Armpit hair? Has he not got any then?

You poor thing(s) although i have less sympathy for your dh. Saying that, you were mortified and didn't want to see him, maybe he sensed this. These things happen, im surprised they don't happen more often. Now apologies if you are eating but a friend (and not thats not me, it really isnt!) told me once that she shit herself when her DP was, well, you know, down there now THATS embarrasing! I think you just have to get past it, maybe try and treat it as something funny, that way it will assuage SOME of the embarrasment.

Don't be too harsh on your DH, or too hurt by his reaction, just carry on regardless. All you can do really.

I hope now he feels more mortified by his reaction.

You will get over it in time even if it becomes 'that thing you never talk about'.

Only DH and I know this happened to me (now you all know!) TMI alert

I had to have a colonoscopy and had to drink lots of citra fleet or somesuch named vile substance, it was horrid.
Anyway, it makes your poo loose, clears out all your bowels, and I spent the day running to the loo..
Half way through my second jug of it I started getting stomach cramps and feeling sick. I undressed and went to bed.
A few minutes later I ran to the bathroom, bent over the loo to be sick and, you guessed it, a stomach spasm cleared my bowels - all over the bathroom.

I was mortifed.

I quickly locked the bathroom door and then started crying, DH was stood outside the bathroom going 'whats happening?' 'open the door'.

After a few minutes I told him what had happened and asked him to get me the mop bucket, bleach etc. 'What the hell'.. he said, 'don't ask' I replied

When he brought them all upstairs I opened the bathroom door just enough to get the ucket etc, we made eye contact and he burst out laughing, I started giggling between tears.

Half an hour later I was clean and showered and the bathroom cleaned.

I went downstairs and DH had been to the shop and bought me some flowers.

Aw babes, I'd never have thought a poo story could be so romantic

Here's some for mortified x

ii have had 2 bouts of food poisonging that have made me lose complete control of my bowels and my husband has cleaned up after me and followed me around with a bottle of dettol.

This is why you make vows of 'in sickness and in health'

He needs to get over it, the prat. Shit happens!!

Having been involved in a "poo" incident in the past I can assure you your embarrassment will soon go and It'll be no time at all before you're laughing about this and re-telling the story at dinner parties.

Thanks for cheering up my morning. :-)

Lol at everyone! Some v funny stories here Mortified I understand why you're embarrassed but all of us have some kind of embarrassing story to tell! Your husband is ok, you'll all but forget about this soon, 6 months down the line it'll just pop into your head once a month then you'll cringe internally and forget all about it for a while again. Keep some perspective and try not to worry about it x

That was me, mintyy. I linked to my thread further up. Why are you being so horrible when the OP is clearly upset?

Op is it possible you may have had a stomach bug and not realised until mid-way through sex?
I was nearly sick during sex once as i all of a sudden came over feeling very ill, i made my excuses and ran to the bathroom-i had the neurovirus and was sick for three days after.
It was just bad timing, that is all-he should have left the room, not the house!
He has completely over-reacted and made you feel rubbish which isn't on!
Bad things happen to the best of us, it was just accident i hope he comes back with some flowers and an apology.
((hugs)) x

I'd be mortified too. But his reaction has made it 100x worse. A loving partner would not make their partner feel disgusting because of an accident. I have cleaned up DH's sick when he had food poisoning and while it's gross, it's just what you do. He probably squashed your bowel with his belly or penis and forced a bit out, vaginas and arses are quite close together and can be more 'linked' after childbirth (IME anyway) and if he's sticking bits of himself into bits of you he should be prepared for unexpected ickiness at times!

You both seem a bit hung up or inhibited about bodies, especially with your remark about him thinking armpit hair is bad. Loose bowels happen, both DP & I have had wet farts at awkward moments and we've learned to clean up & not worry.
How did he cope with babies shitting and puking at random? How did you cope?
Bowels aren't all 100%, you know, so don't worry about it.