Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

Oh good..we also like filthy sex beasts :)

And yes, that is excellent. More than excellent, Fucking fantastic.

I shall have to check in between shags

This will make you laugh, my Bloody mother.... Just popped round to say bye to dd, commented my garden was q bit of a mess ( its only been a week since I cut the grass and it has rained everyday) said that perhaps I should get my proprities in order and not see mrl. Or tell mrl I can't go out and ask him to spend the day in the garden helping me weed. LOL
I fell about laughing, as did my stepdad. Ffs!!

So, we went for coffee, hit it off and then he asks me to go for a walk. Just outside the coffee shop he scoops me into a big hug and snogs me right there in the middle of the high street cue a few go on girl shouts from passers by! Even in 3 inch wedges he towered over me.

Talk about sweep a girl literally of her feet. Anyway two hours later, he leaves mine thoroughly exhausted for work and then texts to say wow and when can he see me again

I think it went quite well?

Hmmm, so attention to the garden....or attention to the lady garden.

What was the question again?

Girly!. Wow! :)

snape that sounds like something my mother would also say. What is it with parents thinking you need to have a man about to look after you and do DIY jobs?

Mine would be horrified if she knew about mrtall, my official new fwb.

Do you all think it's wrong to have a bloke on tap just for fun and lots of filthy sex?

Oh god sorry, I meant watch I blame the orgasms, beats housework on a Saturday morning hands down.

Wow, Girly, yes, I'd say that went quite well!

I'm back from my date ... and it seemed to go the same way as most of my others have. I enjoyed the date - I love going out and meeting different people and going to different places. The man I met was pleasant and interesting. BUT ... I didn't really feel any attraction.

Why does this keep happening? What am I doing wrong?

I don't think you are doing anything wrong libby a lot of it is down to luck and timing.

Besides, as you say you enjoy going out so just go with the flow.

I am not that naive that I think things with mrtall will go anywhere. I might never hear from him again but I won't waste time worrying about. I learnt that lesson the hard way. X

I don't really message Monday's date that much. Just taking things slow and certainly nothing filthy. I am a good girl :) (girls stop laughing at me!)

girly I think you can say it went very very well. Always good to enjoy great sex company.

I do whatsapp as well.

Im not sure how so many texts happen tbh. But this is over a three month period so not so many really. Possibly .

We do iMessaging late at night (occasionally I have been known to fall asleep ) and emails which occasionally get soppy .

I do like this being in a relationship thing - am still thinking something will go wrong but not so much now. And I think it's more an irrational "what will I do to make a mess of it" rather than actually thinking something will go wrong IYSWIM. His (17 year old) DS has said he'd like to meet me as it seems I'll be around for a while. I am a combination of happy about this and a bit scared as I worry I'll forget how to be a normal human being or something like that

The fact that he told you what his DS said says he hopes you will stick around too.

Just go with the flow. I am.

Anyone know someone to come wallpaper little man's room for me. PLEASE. i will of course then tell everyone I done it myself

I'm in need of a slap please.

I can't stop thinking about the guy from last night. I'm beginning to really obsess over him and I have to keep reminding myself that we've only met once and he could be seeing 10 different women for all I know!

I hate the way I get so attached so quickly it scares me.

He's text a few times today - general niceness "how are you today? lovely weather, hows the kids? what you upto? " etc But I find myself watching my phone thinking "why isn't he texting MORE?" how do I detach??

it's tricky I know Mrs Todd, I find rationalising it helps, remember it's just hormones, oxytocin, that kind of thing

having more than one man on the go also helps:)

It is tricky. Monday's date has messaged a handful of times but has confirmed for Monday so I am not stressing. We used to go weeks without talking then pick up where we left off.

Well it looks like my date isn't Interested in a second meet up.

He finally text yesterday morning. Said he'd had a lovely time, would
Love to see my pretty smile again.

So I replied. And nothing. We had loose plans to meet tonight and he hasn't been in touch.

He hasn't replied so I guess that's that then.

Bit confused as it went so well IMO. We laughed and chatted and had a lot in commen.

I am a bit cross because why make a big deal about seeing me again if he wasn't keen? I just think its rude to not even be in touch!

I want to ask him why he's not interested but I won't.

Grr. I knew it was too good to be true. One date in an I want to quit the whole game!

charlie don't quit. I have had a fair few internet dates some are still in touch, one of which we message each other everyday. We didnt have any chemistry but we are mates.

charlie I dont blame you, the whole dating thing is bullshit most of the time. I've never heard so many times how much men want to see me, & even when follow up dates are arranged nothing happens. it really baffles me, I'm attractive, intelligent, i have a very good job, a fab house, 2 children who are largely self sufficient (but yet i'm still young enough - just about - to have more), and yet thats not good enough for every man i meet. fuck knows what picture of perfection they're looking for if i dont cut it, but they're idiots, all of them.

Much like my lovely colleagues who ive spent an 'interesting' day with.

Pearls of wisdom gleaned today:

Colleague 1 (male - comment made following me saying how dating was hard, and how I 'knew' someone -this was me i was talking about of course!- who went on date after date with no success or follow up) well there's obviously something wrong with her - what is she stupidly fussy and knocking them all back? (I say no, no offers) oh well then she must be bloody ugly. or just plain weird.

Nice to know how I must look to men

Colleague 2 (female - when saying I'd been single for 4 years) well you know you need to get out there (When i say i do) No but you REALLY need to make some effort, your DSs will be at uni soon and you'll be on your own you need to get out there and get yourself a man.

Like I haven't tried

Sponge and Charlie
Don't get down, now, girls.

Some men are intimidated by fab women.
Reportedly models are not as requested as you might expect.

Most men are not impressed by good jobs and nice houses, particularly if theirs are not better.
So it may take a while to find one that is worthy of you and doesn't want to live of you.

I think I have a similar problem in real life, as I think I seem too distant and not interested.

oopps... I think I just reported a message on here by accident.. I meant to press reply!!hopefully I pressed the back button in time..sorry mn and who ever I may have reported! :(

so I just woke up to these texts from guy I havnt met yet but am weds.. we've been texting every day.. he was out with his mates last night so I know he may have had a few... I told him to enjoy himself and have fun the last message I sent and then I went to bed..

"I don't need to I am having fun talking to you x and I'm going to say something I've wanted to for days I want y"
new text he must have sent to soon...
"Ok that doesn't read at all well lol what I was trying to say us I hope I make your heart skip and make you breathless because that's the shizzle! That's what it's all about like I said I'm a romantic xx x feel free to tell me Wednesday is off lol"
"I hope your asleep and not freaked out x"

I'm not sure what to think... or reply... I've not met him yet!! he's cones across nice in messages .. I know where he works and could go sneakily check him out before hand and see what his like then.. I've just never had a text quite like that!!

I agree with lueji.. I find that as I have a very good job which I have worked hard for and am well paid (not in higher tax bracket but I'm comfortable ) that this some times puts them off.. and I've been to uni a few times toget as high qualified as I can.. I'm now aiming for my masters.. I do think it's makes them a little uncomfortable..
I have my own house and car and fully support my dc all if which I'm proud of but maybe they think I'm too independent...
I don't know..

MrsGrey,

At least he was not abusive. :)

He could have thought he was texting someone else, though.

Maybe text later in the day and ask if he's feeling better?

But he could also be moving too fast in his head.

I know :(

Just fed up already and I'm just starting.

I ended up at the cinema by myself. Another single women was going in the same time and we kind of gave each other a nod and eye roll thing but ended up next to each other and even shared my sweets! So I'm pretty sure people can get along with me ok.

I was just surprised as I thought it had gone so well. He made a big thing about how he is too honest sometimes and it boarders on coming across rude. But he's been far from honest with me. I want to text "where's your honesty now prick!". But I never would.

But I'm worried it's a test. He talked about a previous date texting and email a lot after the first date and how it put him off as she was very full on. Wonder if he's just testing my reaction? But I'm not interested in games so if that's what he is doing I'm out.

Charlie and MrsTodd, please don't give up yet, you need to step back and realise yourself worth. You both have a lot to offer, be picky, keep your options open and do what mercury says, have more than one man on the go.

Men do this all the time, it helps with the obsessing. Sadly we have to kiss, shag, date quite a few frogs before mr right comes along, but that does not mean you can't have fun along the way.

Trust me dating is a very steep learning curve :)

MrsGrey, I think the heart skip texts can just about be overlooked if he was drunk at the time?

IME many men dont like being 'trumped' by a woman, so if you're more intelligent with a better job...well you've got bigger bollocks than him and he's bound to feel emasculated:o

I'm not suggesting that women should dumb down or reign in their ambition, infact
fuck em
trample on thier fragile ego's and grab what you can out of life!

I am currently trying to get used to a pair of 4 inch heels for tomorrow. My normal heels are only about 2 inches, though I do live in heels. Or wedges with my new flip flops for indoors.