"She can have want she wants, she's at Grandpa's house"...

[Elf1981]

...were the words uttered by FIL & MIL today as they put a chocolate button in my 5month old DD's mouth.
I'm so annoyed!! I've spent the last month shouting at anybody else who tries to go near her with chocolate, wish they had listened.
I have been slowly weaning my DD over the last week or so, literally small tastes of baby rice / pureed carrot & potato or bannana, nobody seems to understand that I want DD to be used to eating "normal" food before being addicted to chocolate!
I have the fear that if she ever goes there for a day or something, the food I send will be throw away and replaced with crap.
Anybody else in the same situation??

i know its a good job im a laid back mum, who gets on well with my family of there could have been trouble!

To change the subject.. annie29, did I read beer correctly or did my eyes deceive me.?!

Shhhh, I think it was your eyes, I meant mineral water... . I swear I won't do it again

I can sympathise with you over this. My Mil asked at 3 months old (six weeks of which he had been very poorly -hospital and op all very upsetting for new parents and baby) if we had given him tastes of jam,butter,chocolate from our fingers. We looked horrified ,only to find her an hour later forcing chocolate on him from her finger. He's now six and it has never stopped accompanied by the phrase "they soon find out what the nice things are." I have often been incensed,but am useless at confrontations. You must calmly explain how you feel. It seemed to show me that they had such little regard for me (dp thinks over reaction). Relatives should let your parenting skills evolve, you may relax about things but it will be at the right time and not because they are intent to undermine.Tell them now and hopefully save your distress .

We blmed MIL once for giving ds1 a terrible rash on his back as she'd given him abig bag of Haribo sweets. Turned out it was shingles!

I understand the anxiety of having a small baby and wanting to do everything right, but believe me a couple of chocolate buttons will be the least of your worries when they get a little bit older. My DD1 is seven nexts week and now the battles are over the refusal to eat anything healthy (she too used to love veg!) and MIL saying not to spoil the occassion by insisting she at least try the thing she liked last week.

Remember that we all grow up to eat most things and that withholding things makes them want them more (admittedly doesn't really apply to babies)
and try and relax and enjoy your little darlings now before peer pressure sets in and has far more of an impact than grandparents.