My husband, for example, is a...

[AreYouCallingMeDarling]

...Cunt

100s of text messages to a woman a couple of months back...

again

nothing happened with her of course

I checked his bill because I did an online shop and condoms were in the "stuff you have been buying at tesco" list. Apparently they were for a posh wank

don't know how to move on from this or if I even want to or can

I have work to do tonight so may not post much.

Oh dear.
I'll give you the first LTB.

Leave the bastard.

A posh wank?! Cunt.

Posh wank???

What a knob. You deserve better.

cunt indeed

He must think you're daft.

What a dick wipe. LTB!

Yeah, right. Course they were.

You already know, the only thing to decide now is where to from here.

I say 'only thing' like that's a simple thing! I know it's not. xx

I'm sorry. If you're sure he's havin an affair, which it does sound like.. Yes ltb.

Why don't you know if you want to move on from this? What will you get out of staying? He is a compulsive liar!

If you're sure of the affair, at least kick him out and give yourselves room to think.

Eclectic - he already had the affair- 3 years ago or so (huge thread somewhere on here)

Part of the agreement on getting over that was never to delete another text message.

He already did that last year

So we are on transgression 3 now.

I am a mug

Oh God, poor you OP.

Get rid.

You're no mug OP, just someone who wanted their relationship to work.

He'll keep doing this to you.

So he's had one affair - that you know about.

He's texting another woman.

He's buying condoms.

I wouldn't want to put you down by agreeing you were a mug, but you certainly have given him more chances than perhaps he deserves.

I'd definitely move on. From him.

LTB

So he's had one affair and now starting/havif another? Time to move on. Sorry op :(

Just asked my DP about the 'posh wank' and it is a real thing... www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=posh%20wank

However, with your DP's history I'd be more inclined to believe they were for other reasons

Oh my goodness OP you have given this man enough chances and I think, given the tone of your post, you know deep down what you need to do. Easier said than done. But given the amount of transgressions I think it is time to move on.

You can leave with you head held high and proud at how amazing an individual you are :o

You sound like a strong woman and wish you much happiness for your wonderful future ahead.

And what kind of idiot uses their club card when buying condoms

Snip was 4 years ago

At least he had condoms, the known about affair was post snip and with no protection so I had to go get tested.

You aren't a mug :( Don't belittle yourself, AYCMD- he is, for being stupid enough to think he could get away with it, for taking advantage of you over and over again, for being foolish enough to be ready to throw away a marriage for his flings. Stuff him and his pathetic lies, do what I did and power up using Eye of the Tiger on repeat (minus the wine, perhaps) and think about what you want to do.

He's the idiot. What you've got on your side is he thinks he can keep getting away with it, so you've got the space to sort out whatever you want to do and then lay down the reality for him.

So sorry

Bastard.

He didn't learn his lesson the first time round and it sounds like he is pissing on you and on the marriage. Tell him that because he has made the choice to check out of the marriage, you're going to formalise the end.

I will show him this by the way

Remember that his cheating is not because of you or the marriage - they cheat because of their own personal issues and flaws. Rather than talk to you, suggest relate etc, they stick their dicks in OWs....

Even if it was a posh wank, what about the texts?