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Dh and I argued to the point of splitting up over me being SAHM - I'm panicking now

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sponger · 02/03/2006 13:04

I've changed my name for this, sorry, but dh will know I've come straight on here to rant.

Our youngest started full time school in October and since then he's been on at me every week to get a well paid job (ie not shopwork or stuff he considers 'beneath' me). We have no family support here. I've applied for 3, was interviewed for one of them but didn't get it. I just cannot think what work I could do with my experience, that will fit with school hours and let me be available for when the children are ill. He tells me everyone he knows has a wife working. I tell him there are highly qualified women all over the playground desperate to find work that lets them still be the primary carer. Which of us is deluded here?

Anyway, just now we had another massive row where i got so mad I said I'd rather be a single parent than have him hassling me like this. He said 'well it might just come to that'. I suppose I asked for it, but now he's out of contact at work and I'm sitting here in tears.

Sorry, just need to get this out of my head. Am I really hiding - I want to work, but can't for the life of me decide what to do.

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cece · 04/03/2006 09:33

I used to work full time in senior management position, but dh was not prepared to/unable to do any pick ups or drop off of children morning and evening.

It was wearing me out and I was constantly frazzled. So I told him if he didn't do 50% of these issues and some more housework then I would have to leave my job. He siad it was impossible for him to walk out of meetings, even though I had to do so regularly....

I now do 2 days a week and no management responsibilities at all. Result. Everyone happy!

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