Things your ex has said that haunt you

[peppapiglet]

ok, so Im trying to get over ex who was abusive in the end.. awful. just awful.
anyhow, i just thought I'd share some of the things he said to me. whilst preventing me leaving his place.

"to spare a thought for him while i am f*ing someone else"
"i am a hooer"
"i chewed him up and spat him out"
"i am a pussy cat"
"he would have been happy being a family man but i have converted him the other way"
he advised "since his divorce he had loads of offers"

he made me feel uneasy whilst i was eating, he dominated and overpowered me and i have gone from being confident to depressed. the relationship lasted 13 months and i unfortunately got pregnant by him, however lost the baby early on.
his ex wife restricted contact with his ds, something i tried to support him with, along with his MH issues. he got into debt, got medically paid off by his job whilst i was with him. he hated me going out, he hated my friends even though he hadn't met them yet. he shouted in public and made a scene and i was so embarrassed and wondered how i got myself in that position.
domestic violence was mentioned in his divorce, however he was genuinally sorry about this and was seeking help. it was a one off incident (or so he said)

so he said all these things..however to be fair he wanted to make our relationship work but he almost stalked me, became possessive etc.

he started smoking and drinking a lot. he was gorgeous looking and a true charmer, i almost question myself when i look at photos. its very confusing.
anyone experienced similar?
after being with exh over 10 yrs i had my eyes opened, i feel naive, stupid and confused and in fear of men.
so how do i get over this and the things he has said haunting me?

goldierocks.... as far as i knew he did not have restraining order. however i am also wondering if this is the same man? i am sure it is just coincidence though. It is aswful as i also felt a my home became a prison. he was waiting outside my house for when i got in, he checked my phone, my calender. he was so convincing i even questioned myself. a charmer. some things dont sound too bad when you say them, however the effect on me for whatever reason wasnt good :-(
congratulations you got out too...

I wouldn't think it is the same man.......they all follow and use pretty much the same script.

at "broke his penis". Shows you the levels of delusion we are dealing with here.

Some gems from my ex........
"you should be thinking about the DC before you offer your hole for any cock that shows an interest". I went on a date.

"The Wild West rules, you should do well to remember that when you lie in bed at night". I went to a solicitor about financial arrangements.

"Stop trying to justify why you broke up the family, it was because you wanted new cock and that was it". I told my friend about the abuse.

Actually......this is pissing me off......I'm going to stop there.

I get what you mean about some of it haunting you.....but I guess you just try and catch yourself and dispute dispute dispute it with yourself. Most of it is projection that I get "you are trying to control me" (when I ask him what time he is picking up the DC), but overall it's all total total utter bollocks and serves to remind me why I am no longer there.