Want him back

[Pickles77]

Im 28 weeks pregnant. Only found out at nearly 21 weeks. My OH didn't want the baby, and really hasn't been very good. I had to
Move out, take early maternity and my life is not much anymore.
I know he's treated me terrible and I know
It's not the greatest situation. But I just want him to want me back... Not anything heavy straight away.
I hear he might be seeing someone else. And I know he's been awful but I can't keep putting a brave face on it.
How do I get him back?
I've no self respect or dignity left anyway so that doesn't matter....

Whereabouts in Sussex are you Pickles? I read your other thread & I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I'm in Sussex too (Brighton) & if I can be of any help please let me know. I work 2.5 days a week but am about apart from that. Have transport so getting about Sussex not a problem.

Thank you that's very kind
Mrshels, I'm chi way
If the confidence was a bit better I'd love to meet up but I have trouble seeing rl people ATM. Sorry, I really appreciate that though x

Who told you that being premature is hereditary?.. If you look after yourself properly, get regular check-ups and follow the advice of your GP and midwife, there's no reason whatsoever why your baby shouldn't go to full term. I don't know how old you are but medicine is always progressing.

Starting a course from home would be an excellent idea. It may be difficult to combine a new baby with study but I'm sure you'd rise to the challenge. The diversion would do you good right now... stop you wallowing

Hello, Pickles, I'm so sorry reading your thread, I have been there too. It hurts SO much.

You sound stronger and more resolved in today's post, and your baby is your world, as she should be.

Don't worry about what anyone says or thinks about you, he will be spinning his twisted filth, and one day that will be water off a duck's back. Believe me!

Being at a birth is a privilege, not a right. And he has no right to be with you at the most precious moment of your life.

You might try ringing The Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90. I found just talking helped. There is so much help out there for you, and you will always have MN.

Not a problem Pickles, the offer is there any time but it's an offer of help not making you do something you don't want to
I think I'm due around the same time as you (EDD is 21st September).

I know I'm the 28th x

Pickles- sign up to free cycle in your area, where people give stuff away. Round here there is always baby equipment, , clothing, toys, furniture etc being given away but you have to be quick. also check your local paper for stuff for sale.

Look online for the nearest SureStart centre to you. They have baby groups, our local one has a Tums to One group so you can go when you are pregnant and make friends before your baby is born. Look into whether you qualify for a Sure Start grant (you need to be in certain benefits). If you arent entitled now you may be after the baby is born if you can get tax credits.

Sure Start centres usually have somebody that can help you Ruth's benefits etc

Fab thank you

Ruths?? not sure what that was meant to say, lol. Obviously not Ruth! I think it was housing, benefits etc.

I just posted on your pregnancy thread too, with a link to the direct.gov website, stuff about parental rights, but there is also a lot of other help on there too.

stay strong!

How are you getting on Pickles? Hope things are a bit brighter x

Hi Pickles, wondered where you'd got to... now back to see if Psammead's found the key to her postbox yet!