Changed my name for this. I'm at a loss...
My mum was a functional alcoholic throughout my childhood...well she didn't drink during the day, but evenings were hell.
We have always argued and I have always borne the brunt of her manipulation and temper because I have never accepted her drinking. My brother and dad tend to bury their heads in the sand and get on with it.
Anyway, a year ago she stopped drinking due to a health scare and since then we have got on better and she helps with my toddler.
The last couple of months she has been taking painkillers to the point where she is behaving similar to when she was drunk. She thinks only my dad notices and is aware of it. He has told myself and brother not to mention it to her and he will deal with it.
This was working kind of, until today when I just snapped (no swearing or shouting) because she insists on undermining me in front of my ds when she is on this stuff.
She is very sensitive and can't handle any criticism, so she is refusing to see him now, which is a problem as we live next door to each other and she sees him every morning.
Anyway, to make matters worse, my dad is siding with her and shouting that I am unreasonable and need to watch how I say things. Basically, its easier for him to have a go at me than acknowledge the problem.
He admits there is a problem but said I should have confronted her about the drugs rather than lost patience about her undermining me. However, we have family staying and I don't want to embarrass her.
So...it feels like I am back under her control as I was always as a child...the situation makes me feel like a piece of shit...I hate the confrontation with my parents, its awful. They are both ignoring me and if I try to approach them, it will not be pretty. I don't have the energy.
Sorry this is so long...I just had to get it out as I can only talk to my brother and partner and they are not around tonight.