I did it, i finally spoke out...

[liverLadyLass]

I finally spoke up and said how I felt,
I've never done it before, it's taken me ten years to just stop nodding and agreeing with my mil,,
I feel so much better, but a little bad too,
has anyone on here spoken up to there in laws?
I don't think she'll ever be the same with me again.

Congratulate yourself for sticking up for yourself.

Ooh go on then, tell us the story...

Well done you. What did you say?

Full sp please

Ooooo, another one who wants to hear the story.....

Good on you OP!

Not in-laws but parents... friends... colleagues... anyone really. Used to care what others thought and wanted them to like me. Now I don't care, as long as they're not in my face any more :) I warn you, once you find your voice, it's very liberating!!!

I have found it easier to stick up to people since i turned 40.Something changed and i became gobby assertive.
I have not extended this to my pil as yet but that day will come mark my words.
story please?

ps I am assertively not going with dh today for a weekend vist,i will be staying behind with dd1 for quality time at the cinema and local chineses buffet

I am about the only person in the family who will stand up to my FIL. He can be a bit of a right wing bstrd, and does nothing but complain. Far from causing a problem we now have a healthy respect for each other and he is much more measured in what he says.