bit of backstory, I didnt meet my sister and brother until I was 16. he is thoroughly unpleasant and we disagree on pretty much anything. he is a bully, a misogynist and a thug, who spouts shite thinking that he is being "real" when actually he is being a twat.
Ive posted about my sister before, she is very selfish and self-absorbed. one of those people around whom the world turns. she is also The First Woman To Ever Get Pregnant?. I have supported her through some pretty shit times and have never asked for anything back, even when I have been struggling myself.
Her boyfriend, well, I dont know. they have been dating for just over a year and are having a baby. I have met him twice, but he seemed ok.
a few months back DB and I had a falling out, I posted something about the we believe you case on FB and he decided to hijack the thread with all sorts of rape myths and misogyny. I got very upset (as a survivor myself, the realisation that in addition to childhood abuse I was actually raped as a teenager and hadnt been "a silly girl" was very fresh) and (based on his own posts, and previous arguments, including women are inferior to men, send all the nasty forriners back, people on benefits are scum) decided to delete him. no fuss, I didnt tell anyone, I thought it would save a huge row.
fastforward to this weekend, DH is still "friends" with him, and his page was open. on the newsfeed I saw my name on DB's status. the gist was that he, my sis and her boyfriend were laughing at me and my "preciousness" I am oversensitive and a silly, bored housewife. I had sent sis's boyfriend a friend request (mainly to be nice, he is the father of my future nephew) and he was laughing with DB about it saying that he couldnt decide whether to accept, so will just leave me in limbo.
i was pretty hurt. and sent sis a text saying " Hi, this is awkward but DH has shown me what was said on DB's fb page. I haven't told you what happened between us, its not fair to involve you and I didn't want to make things awkward. But after reading, its ok. Tell boyfriend that I've taken back my friend request. No need to feel awkward, or worry about accepting etc. But in future probably best to make sure that the husband of the person you are slating can't see it."
I havent received a reply. about an hour after I sent it DB posted "life is so funny sometimes, hahaha" and boyfriend "liked" it (she and he were staying up there for the weekend, and they all went out together) so, I may be being paranoid, but it seems that it was aimed at me. I'm hurt though. I put so much effort into helping her when her ex dumped her 6 moths after proposing, I was on call day and night. Ive spent days comforting her, including when she had her mc. I was even nice when she was upset about TTC taking so long (2 months) and I feel like a prize mug now.
what should I do?
and sorry for the essay, didnt want to dripfeed.