DH's feelings about how I should spend my day off

[zozzle]

Normally I do the weekly shopping on my day off (fri) while kids are at school. Got in at midnight from work last night so decided I felt too tired to go shopping today so have pottered round the house catching up with housework. Also I had an important phonecall just as I would have normally gone shopping. I will do the weekly shop tomorrow.

DH is now in bed. I think he is sulking that I didn't go shopping today, as I will now have to cut into family time at the weekend to go. The same thing happened 3 weeks ago and we had a row about it.

For a while he has tried to "have a say" in how I spend my time off - he thinks I am not "efficient" enough with my use of time. Yes, because I am bloody cream crackered (and not a natural domestic goddess)!

Is this just a man thing (ie. wanting to use time efficiently) or is he being a total prat?

Is he jealous of your time off?

he is being a prat

and you should ignore him

if he is that bothered about the shopping, tell him to fucking do it himself

Online shopping?

Do it now online; if you're lucky you could get it delivered tomorrow morning :)

what a git
shop online and do alternate weeks with dh

Yanbu. Does he not gave legs and a wallet?

voting for Prat.

? what's to stop him running out to the all night Tesco right now in his time off and preventing the shopping eating into family time tomorrow??? Oh, he's in bed, must be tired poor lamb! I see he hasn't worked 'til midnight........

no

don't do online shopping, not now

set up online shopping next week if you wish

if your H wants to sort it, tell him to go for it

Hand him the the list and tell him to do it himself.

He sounds a bit control-freaky. Do you expect to dictate how he spends his work day? No, because presumably he has a boss who does that.

Does he think he is your boss?

Ignore him and go for a facial. I'm sure he can find a nisa tomorrow should he become desperate.

Is he efficient with his time....what exactly does he do around the house and if he's such the dog's bollocks at time management maybe he can do your share of the chores too

As he's had an early night, he could get up early and do it himself.

Yep I think he is jealous as he keeps on saying he wishes he had time off in the week and how he'd do things differently to me.

Do your shopping online... I simply cannot believe how working people have time to actually visit a supermarket?

If you work 4 days to dh's 5 days then it is reasonable to expect you can crack on with housework on your day off and all have relaxed time at the weekend, surely?

tell him to quit criticising you, it makes him sound like a cunt

Bingo.

Well, then have a serious discussion about him requesting to go down to four days a week.

Oh he sounds just like my DH.

Print this thread out to show him he sounds like an idiot?

My DH works from home, but won't even put the breakfast stuff in the dishwasher or put a load of washing on. Because he is working and I do not understand as I sit in an office all day and do not have a proper job (despite the fact that I earn more than double his salary - clearly I am paid for Mumsnetting and Facebooking and going for expensive lunches...

maybe print it out and write the shopping list for him on the other side

Essential - I'm struggling to fit in weekly shop, weekly hosp visit (nothing serious), visiting the odd friend now and again plus all the chores into school hours on a Fri. Are you saying I should be able to fit all of that into 6 hrs?

How many hours a week does he work? And how many hours do you work?

If you're doing fewer hours then I imagine he's envious, which is understandable tbh. Which doesn't give him carte blanche to strop about, but kind of puts it all into perspective,

fwiw I do fuck all on the rare weekdays I'm not at work, although I do whip around the house spraying Pledge into the air and wipe my brow when dp gets home exclaiming "goodness, I just haven't stopped all day!!"

DP does exactly the same btw.

MrsS - do you need anyone else in your office

Zozzle - how long have you been putting up with this tit shit for?

I bet he does jeff all around the house?!

Tell him as he's not pleased with what you are doing, it's all now his job. Including the shopping.