just to say thanks when you were so kind and concerned when i posted a message on here a few weeks ago. dp and i have now separated and he is living and working away from home 4 nights a week. we feel that just because i cant cope with the relationship does not mean our child has to suffer so he will come back three nights a week to be involved in the care. seems to be working ok and we are actually getting better than we have in months now that the pressure is off! so fingures crossed ds will (kind of) have a happpy family after all.
thanks again!