Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

[Snapespeare]

apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

So is there something in the air?

Having felt uneasy about my; 2 dates 2 days running; situation I've cancelled both.
I think there was some expectation that the dates would end up horizontal and that's not what I wanted, least not on a first date anyway.

Also I may've caught Watch's swoony bug.
Been talking to a man from south yorkshire, for 2 weeks, who I think is lovely.
He remembered it is DD's birthday and texted this morning hoping we all have a great day.
He's very sweet and gentle and we've spent hours chatting on the phone, there's lots of common ground.
We're going to meet up a week tomorrow.

Maybe it's jubilee fever and everyone will get a date over the weekend!

yep. i am going over to the dark side.......

he sent me a message saying he really enjoyed it yesterday, and hopefully we would be seeing lots more of each other. Then he suggested the picnic lunch idea.
:)

Which ive just cleared with work, because i usually only get 30 mins, but they do owe me some time back. it had better not fucking rain :)

So - in actual fact, my friend and collegues were all right. and possibly my standards were too high. I wouldnt have given him a chance at all. based on the fact he lives at home, doesnt drive and some texts were misread in the spirit in which they were intended.

so - maybe time, yes, have a bit of a rethink? mines not much of alooker really, as you know. but he is nice, and has a fab personality, which is probably why i now fancy the pants off him.....( having spent some time together)
My friend actually said ' watch, do you really think someone ' perfect' is just going to turn up? well, they are not, there is going to be comprimise somewhere, suck it up, stop being daft and meet the guy!'

Am glad there is some good dates happening :)

Am on train going back home. Only left on Tuesday but am doing more next week. Was waved off at station by Mr Nice (on Tuesday that is). Am seeing him tomorrow. I think we do have an element of seriousness going on here which makes me feel and slightly and a tiny bit but that is a very small part. I think we are good for each other.

Not about to have an engagement ring on my finger though

Yes watch, you are right, even I fancied yours just by reading his profile, I loved it. Trouble is, the munters I'm attracting don't have attractive profiles either.

I don't think your standards are too high as in the kind of man you want, but I do think the issues you had initially were tiny, at such an early stage in the proceedings, if you don't mind me saying .

nope - its fine :)

Im good at trying to convince myself i dont want to do something, i do it all the time.
:)

because any kind of realtionship is actually quite scary.....even though it would be nice.

he does have a nice profile ( which he hasnt logged into since we first met, not that i have been spying or anything) and does tick a huge amount of boxes, so not not date him based on two not ticked was silly of me really. esp when hes lots of fun.

miranda - thats exciting news! i can understand the and but as long as you are enjoying it, and him, then its all good.

I can totally relate. Relationships are scary, and if you meet someone nice and things are going well, then you fall in love...

There's a lot of smiley faces on this thread at the moment

yes, they are frankly terrifying!!!!

i do still think this, and i havent changed my stance on living with somone, or wanting somone about ALL the time. But post ' sex gate' i decided id had enough of casual sex, and actually wanted more. And that it might be nice to have somone around for the crappy times, as well as the good ones.

there are lots of :) perhaps the heatwave brought out the best in people else its spring and everyone is looking to mate

Actually, I would like to rephrase that, it's not relationships that are scary to me, it's losing my independence and single status. I just love being single. I really do, I can't ever imagine living with a man again or even wanting to. Not because I don't like men or because of previous experiences, I think it's just how I am. So, I could do the 'relationship' as long as it didn't involve sleepovers and/or moving in together

I absolutely poo my pants when I think about a relationship. My life is so neat & organised & I really like it. When I think about the compromise involved in making a relationship work, I feel the waves of panic start to rise!!!!!

However, I made a resolution at the start of 2012 to be brave & not make decisions based out of fear (I read my Susan Jeffers book again over Christmas!), so onwards, onwards!

Picnic sounds fab Watch - what a lovely thing of him to suggest.
Miranda - can't believe you mentioned the "serious" word - that's exciting.

My money is on the 'looking to mate'. Turning off the electric blanket and not wearing PJ's always makes me a bit frisky.

post - yes, thats exacatly where i have been at as well. which is probably what promted the ' i cant possibly date him' thing. because its terrifying.

on the subject of sleeping naked, DD came into bed with me at the weekend, she was also nude. She says ' mummy, you look just like a pop star, because you are red and naked' i ask her how many pop stars does she know who are red and naked. she says ' just the one' i ask whos that then. and she says ' you'
and then wonders off tutting at me.
:) i love that girl SO much.

Me too Post, but it's not through fear of relationships, I just like things as they are. I want a man to enhance the life I have, I don't want to compromise BUT, I do understand and appreciate that compromise is something that comes hand in hand with a good relationship so I won't let that stop me from becoming involved with anyone who will have me someone. My thoughts are not set in stone. Apart from the sleepovers and living together. I may compromise on the sleepover if he promises to stick to his own side of the bed, not to snore, not to fart and to leave before 6am.

Sleepovers are rather nice .

But not living together. Would cramp my style.

Am slightly wondering if the sunshine has had some influence. So now its raining will see what happens :)

Sleepovers are rather nice .

But not living together. Would cramp my style.

Am slightly wondering if the sunshine has had some influence. So now its raining will see what happens :)

awh bless your DD watch. You know what my DD said to me that made my heart fill with pride? She said "I'm pleased I live with you mummy because you teach me how to be strong and say what I feel" this came out of the blue so I asked her why she said it. She had been to her dads and she had heard him sucking up to his mother eating all his tea because his mother had told him to I asked her what she thought her dad taught her "Nothing really, apart from how to be soft and just do what bossy people tell you what to do". I love my DD so much too!!

me too,would love sleepover but not moving in.Date tmrw,have to drive abt 30mins so bit nervous,been chating for a while and he seem ok but not put all my hope in it due to past experience.will see how it goes.

Miranda my bed has only ever had me, DD and the cat in/on it. I'm not sure I want to allow a man into it. But I can be fickle

Ha. Last relationship far too recent to allow any moving in here.

No way am I ready to share my life with someone else. Maybe in a year or so.. you never know.

Sleepovers on the other hand, I am fond of, and kind of a luxury given the fact I have rare nights without children!

I may need to try a sleepover to see what it is I am missing, everyone else seems to like them, I'm worried about myself.

Before I can try a sleepover though I do need to find a man. Now, that's the tricky bit!

Oh, ice crystals in my heart melting at the lovely comments from all your DCs. Mine say wonderful things too & when they do, I feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

When they are talking about farts or attempting to fart on or near me or squabbling, I don't have quite such a rosy view though!

I have got back home. To a cheque from HMRC which is a nice surprise (overpaid tax in 2006-7). Although also one about underpaid tax in 2005-6 and can't work out if that is included in the cheque (despite being an accountant I'm not a tax one ).

Actually looking at calculation properly I think it is all mine .

Watch, I'm so glad you went and even gladder that you are all swoony

I haven't had a man stay over in my bed for 7 years. Apparently, I am far too entrenched in my singledom (so friends tell me) I say I am just too independant now and selfish. I don't want to share my things or my time and definitely not my bed

I have had an interesting week. I went to theonewithnoname's home. Well, I say home, he has a room in his mates nan's house. Grotty room, with single bed, one wardrobe and a suitcase with all that he bought out of his marriage ten months ago. He is waiting for ex to sell marital home. But! he is really nice, considerate and cuddly andfitasfuck A very nice evening, even in the dire surroundings

Last week, I started to talking someone, will call him MrBig (loaded and tall) We talked on the phone, he is single dad with sole residency and a nanny, a consultant Dr, family home and bachelor pad. He came out of 3 year relationship recently but his kids didn't cope very well so isn't looking for relatationship. All good so far. Then he text to say actually no, he isn't going to go looking for anything right now, sorry to messed around

All fine, then yesterday a text - actually maybe he would like to meet. I had already deleted his number, so had to ask who he was lol

So we arrange to meet yesterday in his area at 2.30. Major fatal accident meant he didn't arrive until 5pm! I was ok, pub was lovely and I sat in the garden with my book, it was actually a lovely break - almost like being on holiday

Very nice, easy to talk to, attractive. And I'm seeing him on sunday (if he doesn't disappear) Don't know if he is looking for a FB or to date so will see. But he has been in contact lots today and said he will be bringing wine next time

Ahem. 4 th date also planned for next week.

How the Fucking hell did that happen???
:)

Miranda, wooo!!!!! That's fab.

Mrsc, he sounds confused. But if you are ok with that.....

Sleepovers have only happened when drunk. I'm not sure id want someone in my bed all the Time. Occassionally is ok. Probably.

watch he's obviously keen to get to date no 5....