Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

S just how you get to know someone..just hanging out and seeing what happens. I like it :) It's nice.

:) watch am so pleased you had a good date...and a 3rd to come. hurray! and yes dont think of the cons, enjoy it at the moment for what it is. he seems nice, he is not just out for sex, and you like him. Tis all good!

hoping some of your luck rubs off on me. But realistically, door man is never going to be interested though is he, even if he's single? have realised from a glance repeated staring at his fb picture that he is really v v attractive (admitted not at all my type). which means inevitably this will end up being like the whole WM saga all over again, and end in total disappointment.

No watch, no need to think of the cons at all whilst only dating. If he proposes then that's where you have some thinking to do, top bunk or bottom bunk. Enjoy!!! Am really pleased for you. Oh, and yes, I totally agree with you re your reasoning for over thinking and it being safer to stay single.

Sponge You sound to have got it as bad over door man as I have over alarm man. He visits my dreams almost every night and I've not seen him for a year!! I think you should take the bull by the horns and just ask him if he is single, if he is then you should ask him if he would be interested in going for a drink. That's what I think. Yup!

Grow I don't think seeing an astrologist is weird as such, it's just different. It wouldn't bother me, not at this early stage anyway.

watch great news re the 3rd date :)

sponge yet again, I find myself agreeing with Time. Ask him, or at least ask him if he'd like to go for a drink so you can thank him for saving you a few hundree quid re the toilet/insert reason of choice here.

Grow I'd only worry about the astrologist if he can't make a decision without consulting one.

Whoop, whoop - so glad you had a good time Watch & that you are going to see him again.

My date went really well too. Had cocktails in Soho & chatted and laughed non-stop for 3 hours. I really like him and judging from the text he sent me afterwards, he thinks I am hot stuff!

My only problem is that I don't fancy him in the rip your kit off, hot & panting kind of way I'd like to. Anyhow, I enjoy his company so much, I'm going to stick with it and see if I grow to fancy him. I've never gone for this approach before. I've always gone for carnal lust & then worked out if I liked them afterwards - so feeling a bit unsure of myself!

post - thats always been my tactic too!!!
Obviously its not worked.....

But i do fancy him now, after last night... so? i dont know really. But if you had fun, then go with it... see what happens. Glad it went well!

Time - yep. trying to stay in the momment of it, as it were. rather than going' he does not meet this checklist requirement' so im not dating him. It was fun, ive had a great time both times ive seen him. I do fancy him. and thats it. there doesnt need to be any more to it.....

Sponge - you just need to ask him. via text if necessary. just something casual. Course he would be interested. you are an interesting and lovely person!

:) :)
and he just text me, and nice, mammouth long text.
and my stomach did that ' huh, is that from him, IT IS from him' lurch, butterfly thing.
Damn
:)

you will have to forgive me for temporarily giving up my cynical stance, because i may be rather swoony today. But you know, if you get called ' capitivating' and ' awesome' its bound to go to your head, isnt it.....:)

Aw Watch - enjoy it.

I'd be a little surprised if a man admitted to consulting an astrologer, but I'd then get him to give me his birth info so that I could take a look at his chart.
Knowing that he is swayed by astrology could be very very useful :o

Grow, I think astrology is total bunkum, so for me that would be very weird.

However, if it is just a fling, then it probably wouldn't worry me, as I'd hope talking wouldn't be top of our agenda!

ha! mercury loving it. astrological stalking. I have his birthday and I think year, what else do I need

watch and post that's lovely!

sponge I guess it's one of those things, would you be annoyed with yourself for ever if you didnt ask him? casually like the others say? what do you have to lose in fact?

post I am also a bit cynical so I suspect it might be a fatal difference between me and the hippy, given that he is also eg a bit religious/ spiritual. On the other hand, it's quite nice to see into a totally different world from time to time!

You are right Grow - it is good to see other perspectives too. PBB considers that she should be more tolerant and broadminded.

Hopefully he can massage your chakras! Not even sure that makes sense - but it sounds like it may appeal to him (and you).

grow you need the time date and place of birth for a personal chart, but that wont be much use to you unless you know how to read the chart

I've had phases of extreme scepticism, I know all the arguments inside out so I do appreciate where you're comming from Post with the 'it's all just woo-woo' standpoint.

Thats why I dont usually mention that kind of thing.

I've been seeing a guy for about a year who I'm very sweet on, I'd like have his birth info but I know he'd think I'm an idiot for entertaining any of those kinds of idea's, so I just dont go there

post I wouldnt put it past him! He wants to teach this

To translate, its something about helping people of our time to reach a profound understanding of their bodily and spiritual reality in a true unity - not by avoiding the world but by enlarging your day to day understanding so that you liberate your creative forces, to better adjust to all life situations and a permanent enriching of your personality and social reality..

argh not sure this is helping his case.. but who knows perhaps I'll manage to reach a true bodily and spiritual reality during my fling

mercury i have to admit that once a friend of mine did my chart and it was quite accurate. But then note, it was a friend of mine, soo... ? reading is always a kind of interpretation I guess! The question is whether you use it as a guide to help you think about your decisions or whether you get dependent!

lovely that everyones dates have gone well! :) yay! :)

Mercury, I am very much a live & let live person & hope I didn't offend you with my bunkum comment.

I suppose it is a bit like the discussion we had a week or so back about whether or not you could long-term date someone with wildly differing religious or cultural views.

I'm one of those really dull rational types who likes scientific explanations for things. I struggle a bit with all religions to be honest, despite my parents best efforts to raise me as a Catholic!!!

actually doesn't look as weird in English

post I was never raised to be religious so I don't even have that influence! ah well.

:) :)
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hes bringing me a picnic lunch tomorrow and meeting me in my lunch hour.

Thats a bit nice, isnt it :)

bugger, still all swoony.

oh and post - me too. i dont get all the stars, religion stuff. but each to their own. I probably would have issue dating someone who was full on into it.

and im just excited about a picnic. ive been wanting a picnic date forever.

:)

not offended at all Post :)
I'm also very interested in science, and would find it difficult to spend much time with anyone who subscribed to any religious doctrine or dogma, and I get tired of vacuous 'new age' clichés like 'everything happens for a reason'

I'd look at someones birth chart just out of interest/for fun...I'd not make any decisions just on the strength of it

Oh dear. We seem to be losing watch to the dark side

It all sounds very lovely watch, it really does

Post your date sound lovely too, cocktails in Soho sounds so glamorous! If he is nice and you like him then I would say stick with it cos liking him may lead to lusting after him, a good personality does it for me more than rippling muscles and a pretty face does. Trouble is, I turn my nose up at the face if it's not so pleasant so am possibly missing out on a good personality . I think I need to have a firm word with myself.

Hi to everyone else. Summer has disappeared here today and we have rain. It must be almost bank holiday!