Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

My ex-after-the-kids-dad made fimo models, moved back in with his mum for a bit & was an absolute SHAG GOD! fab sex makes other things bearable.

But, I would have a quiet word with myself if after several nagging doubts, I considered seeing him again solely because his guitar playing prowess moistened your gusset. He can't even respond to a text within a reasonable time frame...

Back to the drawing board then?

Saves you the hassle of getting home in time for the 'babysitter'

Oh, and if he hasn't suggested a time and place by now, don't contact him to cancel. Leave it, see how long it takes him to suggest something then simply tell him, five hours later, that you won't be going after all. See how he likes it!!

Tolly, I am Jealous!!!!
It was a heady combo of the hair, catsuit, insane guitar playing, and confidence.
I know he was awful looking, but damn I still would...

Good luck for your date!

Maybe he has 'chores' and his mum takes his phone off him until he has done them

But you wouldn't be allowed watch, cos he doesn't do sex until after the 5th date.

True, true.
This is why this board is fab.
:)

I do tend to think 'is it me' and wonder if I expect too much.

But I dont think i do. Not really.

No, it isn't you and you don't expect too much. You just have standards. High standards mean we may be single for a bit longer but at least when we are coupled up we will be happy. Worth it imo

No sex until the 5th date?
is he for real?
why?

Probably because he thinks about it in his head so doesn't have to do it mercury, like with the texts

Maybe he just thinks he is special, and worth waiting for, both text and sex wise.

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3rd I think....

witholding sex seems an unusual strategy for a bloke to use?
I'd be inclined to suspect sex wasnt too high on his list?

Considering how he also witholds replies to texts I would say he is showing a controlling side.

hehe, I thought the trick was to draw a person in first, make them want you and then start with the controlling & witholding :o

Time, you made me lol at ' he probably thinks about it in his head, but doesn't do it',

No sex for 5 dates is quite crap...

It's very crap to actually declare that you won't be having sex for 5 dates. Unless it's a bit of reverse psychology and he is expecting to be 'challenged', and therefore find himself having sex after the 1st date!

mercury he's probably done all that...in his head

This no sex until after the 5th date is probably because he lives at home and has to wait until any woman he meets takes him home with her. I mean can you imagine trying to have sex with your parents downstairs when you're still in the parental home.

Maybe. after the 4th date, he knows sex is on the cards so pays for his mum and dad to go out for a meal. Then uses their bed. Because sex in a bunk bed just isn't the same.

at bunk bed while ewwww at doing it in their bed.

Time - sex in a bunk bed

Watch - he just sounds quite annoying tbh. Unless he suggests a super fun plan in the next few hours sounds like he'd be incredibly frustrating to date.

I have been called by the hippy and he wants to meet again tomorrow - seems keen...I'm up for it while it remains fun but hmm

You guys have made me laugh out loud. I am in a really good news.

I can imagine sex on a bunk bed with parents downstairs. Maybe he'll pay his brother to go out? LOL. Sorry.

5 dates suck and why would you declare how many, why not I just want to take it slowly?

I agree MLM, it would seem more natural just to say you like to take it slowly/get to know each other/wait till the time is right.

Going by a pre determined schedule seems rather contrived

Hello! I haven't contributed in a while, as I got a bit down about the lack of men, but I've been reading your thread and laughing still!

Watch, I personally would go, as how often do you meet blokes who can dampen your knickers with a video?? The 5 dates thing will probably be a pile of crap, and he'll happily give it up after one

I had a first date off POF last night, have a second planned for tomorrow (daytime, with no alcohol, gulp!) and a third for weekend! Haven't got to second date since last year, so excited. He's very nice, which normally puts me off, but I know thats bad for me so I'm purposefully not letting it. I don't want to be with a wanker, so I need to give the nice ones a chance. He's not my normal type at all, but he's fit, and taller than me, so YAY!

I was chatting online late last night with 'saturday' man, he was a bit curt, said he was tired, mmmn.

I'll see if I can have a chat on the phone tonight and suss it out a bit.
It's all well and good being the silent yorkshire type (which he is) but there's silent and there's downright ignorant.

Been thinking about it during the night, don't know if there are mixed expectations of what saturday will bring?

I've got a few manic days ahead it's DD's 6th birthday tomorrow.
First one since xh left, mum died and since I found my birth mum.

So birth mum is coming to stay for a surprise visit, DD will be be thrilled, she loves her new grandma, we all do.
So I get to have birth mum to my self on friday for the day which is lovely there's usually other family around when we meet.

I won't have much time for on-line chat so it'll be interesting to see what happens.

:) at bunk bed sex. brings back memories of first boyfriend....

So - im still going.
Spoke to friend about it last night who went aganist everything i think ( and what you all think too) and said i should give him a chance, and its only a drink. and if judge so quickly, then ill be single forever. she pointed out he had been texting me daily, even if he was slow to reply. and some men are just like that. ( personally i dont buy the ' but they are men, expect nothing' train of thought, as it excuse poor behaviour....)
And, in the paper yesterday ( the mail no less, so it MUST be true!) was a bit about how so many adults are still living at home, and in my area its somehting like 25% of over 25's are still at home....so, she just quoted that at me.

It kind of goes againist everything i think in the way of standards, but then speaking to a work collegue this morning, who also said i should go... im going to go. if only to prove them wrong :)