Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

[Snapespeare]

apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

Snape. I wouldn't complain either. Id dribble the water, take my time Could you an PM top and tail?
So, my,dating success has ground to sudden halt (what's new).

Pilot has vanished.

Tailor messaged me online to say he won't be in London next week. No follow up sentence so I think its a final sentence.

A bloke on okc messaged me to say he is meeting 3 women this week but would consider me a long distance pen friend. FFS.

Never mind 2nd dates i can't even get a date!

Ex wants an fwb and I'm half tempted.

Watch - glad to hear he was funny & you enjoyed yourself with him. You never know he may not still live at home & may only work part-time because he is loaded!!!!! A 29 year old living with his parents would be an issue for me too - so I know where you are coming from. Anyway, lots to find out.

Snape - you get all the best jobs! Pouring water on fit men in this weather - superb.

Sunshine - no, do not let lack of action tempt you back to fwb with ex! You know that is the road to hell.

Morning :)

Sunshine agree with Post that's a no wrt ex as fwb, for your own sanity.

Snape I'm soooooooo

watch I can understand your reservations, it would be good if you could find out his situation wrt where he lives/job etc so you can make a decision as to whether it's worth continuing or not.

sponge sorry that the night out didn't work out but there's still the possibility of doorman.

Well I seem to be getting mixed messages from these men I'm trying to get to know.

I have got a date during the day on saturday if it happens we even spoke about a day out next week when DD's at her dad's, he seems really nice and a bit cheeky which I like.

There's a possible 'drinks' date on friday night with one who texts quite alot, says he wants to meet but won't get specific about when and where.

There was a promise of 'a coffee' with another one for today; who last week was really pleased he was on leave this week cos then we could meet up.
I messaged him last night to check, to be told he wouldn't be able to make it as he has to clear out his garage! wtf

Snape could hotel not swap for twin room? Or if not & its a big bed could you not do Maginot line of pillows down the middle (have done this in the past!)

Sunshine agree avoid avoid the Ex, no good will come of it!

Chaotic what happened following your interview - are you getting called back for a second (fingers crossed)

Isis sorry, so many men on sites are just flaky, but better to find this out now than after a few dates! our time is too precious to waste :)

Door man is coming round tomorrow. He text me first thing and said have a great day. Which my smitten brain tells me is a good sign (when in reality it shows hes just polite!)

sponge don't give up hope until you know for sure.

Wrt interview, there's another round of interviews taking place tomorrow so I'll have to wait until Thursday, at the earliest, to see if I make it through to the second round.

ChildofIris: I am with you on the flaky scene!
The only possible date I may have and its a long shot is with a man who plays a ukelele. And thas only because I asked for a lesson.
You have to hedge your bets even when you have met them.
Penfriend offer told me that he is chatting to 3 women, had met one which was a meet and greet and they are having a proper date this week + 2 more dates this week.
So, people are getting dates and it seems they are circular dating whatever it is called.
I said he will find fault in all the dates and keep looking for something better and then better again. That, in my opinion is what they do.
FWB - well, its strange. I wont go there as I dont want to have sex with him but I do miss him as a person. He finished with me as apparently I wasnt commited enough so it was all on his terms, and he is somewhat immature emotionally. I learned that it just because someone has a highly respected and lucrative professional life does not necessarily mean they are sorted emotionally. Ive had time to think and he was all about the relationship, not about the person for him. Strangely the sex was never loving and he offered no support, just fun company.
But I will stay away - I can get an FWB elsewhere if I wanted one.
Watch: just suss it all out and let us know of course.

The internet is clever.
He is on the electrol register, 2010-2012 at his home. With his 3 other sibblings. Of which he is the second youngest.

I cant help it, but this just puts me off so much.

That, coupled with the not driving thing, and it just turns me off.

And the very very slow replies to texts ( sent one last night, in reply to his... No reply as yet)

I dont know if I should even bother going tomorrow???

Help

watch, go :) its one evening. there might still be good reason why he lives at home, dont write him off yet!

(I have tried looking up door man on electoral roll, slightly hampered by him not having a particularly unusual name and not being 100% sure where he lives...so no success - yet!)

OMG, they all live at home?????? Please tell me it is a huge castle or some enormous pile where landed gentry live?

That aside, did you fancy him Watch? If you close your eyes could you see yourself getting down & dirty with him? If you don't fancy him & his domestic set up concerns you, then you may not want to expend any more precious time on him.

It does seem riddled with red flags Watch doesn't it?

How do you feel about him though, if you ignore the oddities?

If it's a 'good' feeling then the other stuff doesn't matter really, if you're a bit 'meh' then I'd suggest you save your energy for the next one who may be more independent

Sorry, thats 2002 till 2012.

I cant date someone who pays his mum keep fgs.

Sponge, yeah, he has an uncommon surname and I know what town. There is only one entry for that surname in the whole town. So, its him.

I didn't fancy him. Not really, though I did enjoy his company. Could have been a grower. Maybe.

And its just, well, all his texts have been about him, and his guitars. And band. And how Funny he is. And how he doesn't care what anyone thinks. And how much more clever he is than everyone because he doesn't watch tv and knows obscure bands..

And on the hottest weekend of the year, he spent it making a filmo model ( surely the past time of a teenage girl) and sanding and spraying a guitar.

He sounds like the quintessential 'kidult' !

Watch - you don't sound that bothered. I do the babysitter test for these dilemas. Will I resent paying to spend time with my potential date? Even if you are not paying a babysitter, it is still worth asking the question. I find it helps clarify in my mind if I'm interested enough to see them.

oooh I like that test Post, good litmus test.

nope, i would not pay a babysitter.
I think id also rather save what i would spent and buy a new dress.

mercury - kidult sums it up perfectly. Except im after a rown man, one that doesnt pay keep to his mother. Im 34 in a few months for gods sake, you would think men my age would be grown up by now????

:(

Not excusing him but I guess if rents are high and your parents are kind (or rather soft) enough to look after you there's not alot of pressure to leave home.

I left at 18 with out a backward glance but times were different then.

I'd be extremely reluctant to get involved with a man who had never lived independently.
I'd consider it if it was only for sex and he was especially good :o

sorry I am laughing at him making a fimo model.

I have changed my mind. however good his reason for being at home, the rest of it is a bit crappy. dont go on the date, buy a dress or some nice shoes instead :)

his parents may be hoping that a strong independent woman will show up and take man-child off their hands

they best not hold their breath...

sponge - i was a bit at that as well.

Not that an artistic side is a bad thihg, but a fimo model?????

it snot manly is it.
in any way, shape or form.

rents might be high, but ther eis always house sharing, he is almost 30.
and the not driving... oh my god, what if his parents give him lifts. Can you imagine his dad dropping him off on a date??

my god. im not that desperate.

i did wonder, because he seemed to do a lot of ' lying on my bed on my laptop' or ' lying on my bed reading'

its his bed, in his room. in his parents house.

No.
Just no.

I expect he understands at some level that being dependant on your parents makes him look not very masculine.

He's compensating and trying to score some kudos by emphasising how clever he is with the obscure bands/not watching TV etc.

Thats a pretty thin veneer though

hmmmmmm. Ive just found his youtube channel. ( its on his fb)

Im going to give him the benefit of the doubt and still go tomorrow based entirely on his guitar playing which has had somehwta of a dampening effect on my knickers.

#groupie