Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

sponge. you could sit down and say. 'hi hun,wanna chat? what u looking for? would you like me to lick the end of your knob?'. just like they do on pof!
have a good evening.

sunshine LOL. Definitely treat it like online dating.

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunny weather! I have a date today with the hippy...really not sure what to wear! Cos likely we'll just be hanging out in some cafes and he's not someone for whom you should get really dressed up! At the same time want to look good.

Watch I feel your pain on not knowing if your man is flakey or not. I actually saw the hippy as well the other day and he informed me that he was giving up his job to focus on his music, in this case classical, (and will go on benefits - FYI it's a bit more relaxed here on that than the uk for the mo).

Made me think a bit - it is quite nice if you are on the similar level I reckon as a bf so you either don't end up subsidising them or not doing the things you want. Anyway still early days!!!

Sponge, well done for going, cant wait for an update!!!! Was it fab?

Chaotic- hope you get the second interview :)

Growapair- maxi dress?
Have a good date :)

Grow I agree with maxi dress - looks good but not too dressed up/try hard. hope date goes well!

Watch it was pretty awful tbh. I spent most of the evening standing on my own because the majority of men (and women) had come in pairs/groups...but in any event all the men were too short (I'd say there were less than 5 there over 5 foot 10) and not attractive. I got there at 7.15 which apparently was 'too late' for the speed dating . I did the salsa though and have learned some basic steps which was actually quite good fun (probably the best part of the evening).

Am I glad I went? Yes, at least I can say I gave it a try.

Would I go again? Absolutely not.

my date went well. before I knew it it was 11pm and we'd been sitting there for 4hours chatting. he got very chatty after his third pint lol , I didnt drink. I cant find fault with him but think I may be the one that's a bit hmm. he wants to see me again but I'm already thinking of reasons not to. I wonder if I am a bit over protective of myself.. iykwim.

Sponge: salsa is fun and at least it was something to break up the evening I guess. Tallness is very hard to find. My ex was 5ft 8 and I'm 5ft 8 but I looked considerably taller than him. Because I was!
Maybe unhinge all your doors?
Your evening sounded a bit like mine. Went to a BBQ with people who sat in couples holding hands talking....about the price of frigging petrol. It was like they had stangulated their ability to be humerous now they were glued at the hip. I looked like a wild child even though I'm not.
Luckily later more lively people arrived and the coupledoms left and we got down to cocktails and poker.
Got talking to a bloke on pof who seemed upfront, builder, nice looking ect. He wants to meet but it transpires he is a medium (as in contacting the dead not the clothes size). I've had to say no to meeting as the medium ism is making me feel uncomfortable. I'd rather just a brickie!
Prison man was texting me his whereabouts in tedious form~ in the pub garden lol that kind of rubbish so I didn't bother answering.
Have a great day MNers.

Tolly maybe try another date as you won't have all that 1st date adrenalin. Or just ditch if you are sure.

Me and just friends have decided to cut contact. Talking to each other isn't helping either of our situations. So its probably for the best. I am now wondering if he was ever seperated actually. But never mind. He helped me with my confidence so all is ok.

Sponge, I'm surprised! It seemed like it was going to be good, esp with that number of people going. How was the lock and key thing? Did anyone chat you up? Did you approach anyone? Well done for going anyway, took great guts:)

Mlm, was that his idea by any chance?
Honestly, no he probably was never seperated, and lied about everything. We have been trying to tell you this. Hope you are ok.

Yep his idea. I am good with it. That's one of my problems is that I trust people too much. and get hurt for it. But it didn't really bother me that much. Enjoying the sun and relaxing today is the plan.

I felt a bit of a fish out of water tbh, I didn't look anything like the other women there - there wasn't one there in high heels (maybe they'd heard all the men were short!) or false eyelashes. Sounds silly but when I go out locally, that's how everyone dresses...if I brave another (and I would consider doing something salsa related cos that bit was fun) I'll go locally...

A couple of men spoke to me - but they were all foreign students in their early 20s in the UK for a few months. They were polite enough, but not what I'm looking for!

So, if you went with a friend it would be ok, as a night out,because of the salsa.
Go again maybe..?
I get the fish out of water thing, I'm kinda dressed down/ bit scruffy/ indie and if I'm somewhere either totally yummy mummy or towie I feel a bit out of place. But It's Who I am,so....

no date tday as no contact so move on.still chating to other one.crap

It would have been better with a friend, but the men would still not have been for me! At least I would have had someone to talk to rather than being stood on my own for most of the evening though.

Weird thing was the women were mostly more dressed up than me - shorter skirts, lower tops, tighter clothes...but I still felt totally out of place. Odd.

Well I defo need a spreadsheet.
I'm chatting to a few men who may be distinct possibilities.

One or two have said they really want to meet up but then don't actually set a date.
I don't mind 'getting to know you' type messages but until I meet someone I'm not going to be able to make a proper connection.

I'm chatting on the phone with a couple who seem really nice, really funny and interesting

Sometimes its best not to count your chickens. No dates for me. But got a message last night from a male friend saying he wants a life partner and I of course replied and then got a message asking whether that could be me he is lovely but not my type. The friend I was with said to go for it. But it wouldn't be right. So nope. Still can't work out what to reply.

Sponge, do you think maybe you just felt self conscience? Or uncomfortable in that situation, Rather than it being what people were wearing, doesn't sound like you were overdressed or anything.

I hate clubbing, I'm sure I blend in, but I feel so uncomfortable and awkward and it just jarrs with who I am.

Do you think it might be something like that?

Typical!!!

nice buildery type at work today, doing some odd jobs for us. fit as hell, me being all flirty, and offering to make tea.

Work collegue comes down, talk about loo seats ( one of the jobs) and he says that his father in law broke his last week.

WHY!!!!!!!

No more tea for him!!

And ive not heard from my date ( im going to call him band boy) since friday afternoon...... Sent a text this morning but had no reply yet.

Grrr men. Took little man to the park a few days ago with a friend and it made me realise that I miss the family stuff. My friend putting little man at the top of the slide me at the bottom waiting to catch him. We must have looked like a proper little family and it made me and him sad cos he doesn't see much of his.

All the good ones seem taken watch its hard you see someone attractive and then find they are married.

mlm - but you are a proper family already. families come in all different shapes and sizes, yours isnt any less because there is no ' father' figure.
I cant remember the stats off the top of my head, but the actual % of families that are mum, dad and child are quite small.

I dont think its hard per say, so much as just typical :) im not crying into my keyboard or anything!

Sometimes I feel a bit guilty like I am preventing my ex having a relationship with my boy. But just phoned the mediators and he didn't bother to get back to them. Quite annoyed. Two days before Christmas I get a solicitors letter demanding a divorce and contact and now he has the chance to get it sorted he would rather be on the beach. Grrr.

I am doing the right thing. It was nice for us to be there together though. Should do it more often with a friend rather than going alone.

And it is typical. I saw an old flame who now wants a "life partner" I finally text back and said I wasn't ready for that and wouldn't be any time soon. Me and little man need to concentrate on us. Friends are good and its nice to do things.

Also i should admit my little man used to be scared around males. That is improving slowly.

Well morning everyone. We have a bank holiday so just chilling here having a late child free breakfast :-)

Hmm date was interesting. Hung out for ages at the park (went for jeans/ funky tshirt in the end) then went for moules frites and then... Back to mine. Where we snogged a but and then went to sleep ( slightly weird emoticon).

Hmm. As he put it there was more of a 'tendre' dynamic than sex going on, tho ended up with a bit of action this morning

Not quite sure if we're becoming friends or lovers tbh. We had a bit of a chat in the park where we both more or less said we were not ready for a relationship and to take things easy. Nice hugs tho.

Sponge - definitely go with a friend or two next time, then at least you have someone to giggle with at the comedy situations!

watch that is typical, inevitably my door man (who is finishing at mine today, unless I find him more work to do!) will turn out to be married.

Any news from band boy yet? you do know he is a bit slow with his texts though so if you've not heard, be patient :) (easier said than done...)

MLM- Watch is right re families coming in all shapes and sizes. I know round here though that single parent families are in short supply, and I do feel conscious sometimes of not conforming to the 'norm'...in DS2's class at school, I am the only single parent (in fact I am one of very few in the whole school, it's that sort of area...was the same when DS1 was there - even when I was with ExP, the fact we weren't married already put us in a tiny minority!).