Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

I'm back Interview turned out to be the first of a possible two, I'll find out by the end of next week if I get the second. It was an informal interview held by the woman whose job I will be doing if I get it, she'll short list for a more formal interview. It went well, I thought so we'll see what happens.

Hope you ear back from them soon Chaotic :)

I am possibly smitten. In a good way. Had lovely date at the seaside last night with fish and chips and ice cream and walking along the beach. And saying the odd meaningful thing. Which we'd both been hinting at for about a week anyway. Am pretty happy at the moment :)

And enjoying the sunshine.

I haven't heard the term 'smitten' for ages.
Hope it continues well for you Miranda

Me neither :), glad things are going well.

They're doing another day of interviews next Wedsnesday so it probably won't be until Thursday, at the earliest, that I'll hear from them, that's if I make it to the second round that is.

Miranda. That's lovely news. Hope it continues in a good direction.

Much as I love this weather I struggle with what to wear. I don't have many body parts I can get out. This is the time of year I wish I had spent the winter buffing and polishing myself but of course I haven't.

Still plodding on on pof. I may have a date next Thursday if the momentum can be sustained. So that's

A date next Thursday maybe. Tattoo and picture taken in the gym i give that a 30% chance (for some reason I like to give it a probability). Not in my favour is i contacted him first and we works all over. In my favour is he has said more than hi.

Date next Friday. 10% chance. Previously vanished. Likes to talk about sex.

That's it. My ex whom I collected stuff from last week. Text me to say I was wonderful. Then text me again to say I just need to text him for sex. That's weird isn't it?

A peaceful and happy day to everyone.

I've been speaking to a guy for a few weeks and he keeps asking me to meet up, we spoke on the phone recently and he told me he smokes weed and he seems quite negative! So I don't want to meet up with him now! I told him I don't think we will be compatible and he said he thinks we will and he thinks we should meet up just once.

I don't know what to do as I know I don't want to get involved with him!! Ahhh I hate internet dating?!!

Say no. If you don't want to, you don't have to. There's no point in wasting your time and money on something you don't want to do.

Thanks that's what I thought! He is very persistent! All the guys I go on dates with seem to be very persistent! And I havnt even let this one yet! I feel abit bad because he keeps dating just one date??

oooooh I have a date tonight. at a lovely new pub in a trendy area. am really looking forward to it. have been chatting / texting for a few weeks. hopefully we will get on as well as we do in those conversations. he sai he's really looking forward to it and enjoys talking to me.. good signs? we also have a mutual friend which we didn't realise till we were chatting.. he has no dc though which is a little nigling concern as I have 2 ds's..
hmmm we'll see...

not sure... I had a problem with persistent dates too.. why do t they take no as an answer. even weeks later I would suddenly get a random text or call (which I ignored) men...

"Dear , I have no desire to date anyone who smokes weed so I think it would be a waste of both our time to even have one date. My decision is final and I would appreciate it if you could respect it."

Is there someway you could block his number?

Notsure just tell him you dont want to meet him, and then ignore any further communication from him.
Dont give a reason, you dont have to justify your actions to hm and he'll use it as an opportunity to negotiate with you.
Eg
you:I dont want to see you because you smoke weed
him:but I only smoke a bit/whats wrong with smoking weed blah blah.

Some guys wont take no for an answer because they've learned that women tend to give in/feel sorry for them/feel as if they owe them an explanation

Male persistence does seem to be the name of the game at the moment! I had a first meet (drink and walk in the park) with a guy off PoF who could talk about nothing but how he wanted to drag me into the bushes, how it was a shame we couldn't go back to mine for coffee, and how, again, it was a shame he couldn't stay over on Friday (when we'd talked about another date). Unfortunately he lost me at the point where he took my hand and put it on his crotch to show me what effect I was having on him. I think I'm getting old because I don't just want a shag

Anyone with a smartphone, you can download an app like Mister Number or Blacklist, and this blocks calls/texts.

Omg lady library that is awful. What is wrong with these men. You have to block and delete so quickly. I've been talking to a professional man on pof who all of a sudden asks me if I can satisfy him sexually. I thought 'here we go again'. It's ok thinking that but I don't want to hear it before I meet someone.
You' re not getting old. You just have boundaries.

Bloke Off the Internet is coming round tonight. When I was with him on Thursday, he asked about "reviewing" our situation. I wasn't sure what he meant. Then I checked in here yesterday and saw the post about the exclusivity conversation and now I'm wondering if that's what he was talking about.

Does anyone have any advice on this? It's been many many years since I dated and it all seems to have gotten very com

Sorry posted too soon.

What I meant to say is: it all seems to be so much more complicated than it was back in the day.

I'm not sure what reviewing the situation means. Just be prepared for anything. Honestly internet dating is like being in the eye of a hurricane.

I'm certainly getting that impression Sunshine. Thing is, because I have a limited concentration span and can only deal with one man thing at a time, I think everyone else is the same.

I'm enjoying it all the same. He's funny and smart and seems quite lovely.

Tolly - your date sounds promising I hope it goes well!

Yes the persistence is very annoying! One of my dates from a few weeks ago text me last night saying hi! He was a nice person but I have already told him I don't want to see him again! But I feel really bad for ignoring these guys!

Just popping in to say hi to you all. Just friends is exactly that. FRIENDS we text occasionally but that's all, just cos he has been through a fair amount too he does understand but unlike the rest of the people doesn't tiptoe around me like I could spontaneously break at any time.

I will try to find my children's centre. Have a couple of friends coming over Wednesday with their kids. So that's good right?

Other news, after all that about pictures etc (if you remember a couple of weeks ago) I get a letter from the mediators and by today if he hadn't responded the case was to be closed and debt back to my solicitor. All that stress for f@#* all. Unless he does contact them. Doubt it though.

But I feel really bad for ignoring these guys!

That is what they count on which is why they keep being persistent. Women, through upbringing, are often socialised to put others before themselves. What we all have to remember is that we and our needs are important too and sometimes we have to put ourselves first and that is not a bad thing.

Try to think about it this way, if you have made it clear that you don't want to see/continue to see someone and they keep texting/hassling you that is a sign of disrespect. That is them putting their wishes first and sending you the message that your wishes/needs are unimportant to them, not the sign of a man you want to get into a relationship with.

MLM I'm glad you're going to find your local children's centre. It will be good for you to have a circle of local friends that you can rely on :) As for the ex, I know it's easier said than done, but try to put him out of your mind.

agree dont feel bad for ignoring them - they're the ones who should feel bad for pestering!

right am off to this bloody singles thing shortly...dreading it tbh. there is a speed dating part, any suggestions of any novel questions I can ask? apparently you should try and ask something memorable

With the ex its like every time my life has straightened out he rears his ugly head. I got invited out to a singles night with a couple of friends last night, but had a friend over already. Sounds like I missed out on a load of vomiting.

Happy with my life as it is. And then a letter for rent arrears on the old joint tenancy. Erm hang on a moment, whose liable? both of us, well how will that work? Despite giving notice of my intention 3weeks before I moved (i had already signed my new tenancy)

Do you think about anything other than sex?

sponge have a good time and I'll keep my fingers crossed that you find someone.

hello hope u all ok,MLM,what can we do abt these ex,s is been one year and i still get letters from debt collectors,is just a nitemare.
An update,i havent heard from my date for 7 days,the last time i text he said he was busy and will call later but not even a text.i have a feeling he is married so ive delete his number from my phone.Ive been chating to two pp on pof and they both seem genuine but you never know,having a coffee with one tmrw but havent heard anything from him all day.i dont know if i shd text to remind him or just wait for him to text.other guy has been texting all day.