Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

sunshine - YAY! that all sounds fab. And you are exactly right, its about working out what you do and dont want. And working out what things are moveable.

The poster whose message I posted above was on OKCupid.

Sunshine sounds like you know what you want and what you're prepared to accept. That's good, it helps filter out those who don't meet your standards.

I'm waiting for my delivery from Next. When it comes I'll try everything on and then go out and pick up any bits I need, plus a few other items.

Ewww, I really dislike it when a man I've never met starts talking sex, then expects that I will want to sit opposite him in a cafe, sharing general chit chat while knowing exactly what it is he wants to do to me. The tailor gets my vote over the prisoner

I totally agree with your comparison of interviews to dating sites too. The profile is the CV, if the CV isn't up to much they don't get a look in, if they talk dirty at the 'first interview', they don't get invited for a 'second interview' aka as the coffee date.

Feeling liberated and in control is great isn't it?

All this preparation for an interview Chaotic, it's worse than preparing for a date isn't it?

Definitely

I like the interview/dating site comparison as well, never really thought of it like that before. I've added another contact on Oasis, so we shall see how it goes.

chaotic - hope is all arrives and looks ok - and good luck for tomorrow...

Time - i agree on the sex talk before meeting. its not nice. Unless you are going for casual sex ( and both parties are aware of that) But, if thats all hes talking to you about, pre meeting, its all hes interested in.

Small rant - forgive me. My mother is babysitting for me wed. I never go out on a weeknight. EVER. She doesnt babysit for me at all. possibly the last time was about 2 years ago. The odd time ive said about photography clubs she has offered to babysit, but ive never taken her up on the offer, because she offered so i could go swimming weekly, but then moaned when i was back later than 9:30.. and then made it obvious she didnt want to babysit.
I know im lucky to have somone to ask, and she is going to do wed for me, but she told me i need to be home by 10. gggrrrr. Its a little annoying. i dont know why it cant be 11, its a one off. she can nap on my sofa just as much as she naps on hers in the evening. I sound ungrateful dont i?

Just popping in to say hi.

Well found out what went on with just friends, him and his wife are back in contact so yeah. Told me I am a great girl and that he wasn't right for me.

Nice to know it wasn't me. And he has got 3kids with her. But yeah still talking to each other. Looking at the bigger picture.

Feeling pretty happy atm. I will read the updates when I have a few minutes.

I've just been checking out travel routes/times. It's not the most straightforward place to get to by public transport but is doable. If I got the job and had to get there for 9am then I could use a route that requires one change, to get there for 3pm I have to make two changes. If I could drive, and afford to run a car, it would take me between 15 to 20 mins, depending on route. I've made the decision that I'm going to splash out on a taxi to go to the interview so I can arrive feeling relaxed rather than worrying about which bus stop to get off at. I can get the bus on the way home when there's no worry about the time.

chaotic - that sounds like a plan! or do you know anyone who might be able to give you a lift?
Is it for full or part time work?
Wishing you lots of luck.

watch thanks :) Wrt your mum, no, I don't think you're been ungrateful. My exes parents were like this, would agree to babysit but you had to be back by x time which made it pointless in going out. When the conditions attached to a favour make it practically impossible to go/not worth going then it really isn't a favour. I'd rather someone said no than agreed grudgingly and then made it difficult.

watch x-post. It's full time, I can't do anything less than 30hrs because of WTC. I could ask my stepfather but they usually go shopping tomorrow and it's a bit last minute for them to change plans. I also don't want my mum rushing round in order to get back in time because she's not in the best of health so I'm reluctant to ask.

Chaotic good plan!

watch I don't think you are being ungrateful either. My mother never babysat for me, ever! And when she looked after my kids for all of ten minutes before they went to school I had to pay her. And yes, I do resent it/her for it. Mainly because she never had a problem babysitting, free of charge, for my younger sister.

I've just cut my lawns. I am overheating!

Chaotic I thought single parents were only required to work 16 hours in order to claim WTC??

Time my youngest is heading to uni in September so I lose everything which is one of the reasons I'm so desparate to get a job in the next few months. I do want a job anyway but the pressure is on atm.

oh- i did mine yesterday. i have the joys of decking painting later. Rock on!

Chaotic - id be cheeky and ask the step father, even just for the going journey, then the could shop before or after? It is for something important....

You dont think i am being? ah - i thought i was..... Shes all ' yes, but you have to be back by ten, because i ususally go to bed at 10 and i have to work the next day' and i said, yes, and i ususally go to bed around then, and also have to work the next day. Im also picking your dog up after work ( making a detour and pushing my time, possibly making me late to pick up DD from school) and walking your dog, to help you out while you have your hair done, eyebrows down and are working. So its not like i dont return the favor. Im also picking up her dog today for her.
Its a one off, i wont be later than 11 i should think anyway. I might just turn my phone off, be later and suffer the wrath :)

Ahh, I see. So, you need a job or a rich husband?

ah chaotic - god, thats a stress. I dont think that far ahead, but i supose you do really loose everything...but still have to provide support for your child. Awful situation. really hope you get it.

now that's a plan! On the other hand you might just be glad of the 10pm curfew! Seriously though, if you have to be home by 10pm that means leaving your date around 9.30Pm/9.40pm?? That's not good. Shame on your mum, especially after everything you do for her.

I don't envy you having to paint your decking. It's at times like this it would be nice to get a man in!

Aye, and the rich husband has gone into hiding so it's the job

We are meeting about 10 mins from my house :) so 9:50. she cant come round till 7:30. so, what 2.5 hours tops.
hardly worth it really.

Im just going to be late and say i didnt realise the time. And turn my phone off, else she will be calling and calling and calling me until i pick up.

OR - ill be glad of the excuse to leave early.
:)

Im roping the child into decking painting :) its only small decking too. But yes, it would be nice not to have to do everything myself.

Time while I remember, have you still got the details for that naked palette thingy off ebay? I haven't bought any make up in ages and may just treat myself.

Chaotic I've Pm'd you with the seller.

Watch good plan re roping The Child into painting of decking. I used to do everything myself when I had a man, everything except cut the grass, he had this thing about stripes, the lawn had to have stripes. I love my stripe free lawn

Thanks, Time

I've just spoke to my mum on the phone and my stepfather has an appointment with the diabetic nurse on Friday afternoon so it'll be the taxi. My mum being my mum has insisted that she'll give me some money towards the cost of the taxi when I see her Saturday.

Awh, that's lovely Chaotic . We are supposed to be able to claim expenses for travelling to interviews but if its anything like the 'allowance' for interview clothes it will be a nightmare

I don't even bother, too much hassle and you need proof as well eg bus tickets. Somehow I can't see them giving me money for a taxi , tbf that was my choice. The one thing I did claim for was an employment skills course that I went on. It was in retail skills and I volunteered rather than waiting for them to send me on that or another one. My adviser, who I have to say has been okay, paid me when I saw him about a week after I'd started it and I gave him the tickets when I'd finished.