Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

Well that was an utter waste of time. Our local Next isn't badly sized but once you've split it into womens, mens, children and home there isn't a load of space for each section. My local store only has a small section for what they call workwear. I tried on a couple of dresses, one looked okay while standing but when I went to sit down it felt tight around the upper thighs, not good. The second dress emphasised my stomach so well that it could only have drawn more attention by having flashing neon arrows pointing at it and shouting 'look at this stomach' I did try on a gorgeous purple maxi dress that looked fine but unfortunately not suitable for the interview.

I had the bright idea of going to the Liverpool one. Got there found quite a good selection of appropriate attire. Tried a few things on and again the same problem, most fitted okay but tight around the upper thighs when I sat down. I even tried a skirt on which had the same problem re upper thighs, fitted perfectly around the waist, even when sat down though.

I guess I'm going to have to do some exercise, concentrating on the mid region, as I'd like to get rid of the stomach as well.

I have ordered a few things online for delivery tomorrow, including the dress I ordered a few weeks ago but returned because there wasn't even a sign of an interview at the time. If not then it's the black pants, nice top and black jacket combo. If there is something suitable in tomorrows lot you can probably guarantee that it'll rain/be cold on Friday so I'd end up wearing that anyway, sod's law

Now I've had my mini rant...watch that sounds lovely.

I'm on another heath kick too Chaotic. I lost a stone recently but want to lose another one. Plus, I got measured by the nurse at my appointment this evening and it seems I am shrinking. I had suspected as much (due to coeliac and bone loss) but I am now just over 5ft 8 rather than the 5ft 9 and a half I have always been. Which is fine, I don't mind being shorter BUT it also means I have to weigh less I'm only a size 12 but I don't look the same as I used to look when I was a size 12, I don't look as lean. Unless that's an age thing?

I'm sorry you didn't manage to find anything today, let's hope tomorrows delivery brings success.

time- I know the feeling almost.. I lost three stone last year and have been stuck since.. I would like to lose one more stone... but it won't budge. BUT before I had ds's I was a 12 and now got back In to a 12 although my pre-ds size 12's don't fit. their too small so maybe the size 12 14 years ago is smaller than it is now. a dr colleague told me that our bodies change completely after children and I will never budge my mummy tummy now. just to completely upse me!!!!

also still chatting to one guy from POF whom I'm going to neet Saturday hopefully. ex dp won't have boys now as he's taken an extra work shift so I h r to beg my parents. but then they will want to know where I'm going and I'll have to make something up.. my dad is not keen me one meeting someone else and thinks I should stay single till my ds's grown up. ds2 is 5!!! I can't go that long I need some company ;)

On the bright side you have a bit more wiggle room when looking for taller men

I'm trying to get into a health kick but I can't seem to get motivated atm and Friday is a bit too near to make a difference. My problem is I have so much to do, eg decorating, gardening, general tidying/sort out and then stuff from that to ebay, plus job hunting that it gets a bit overwhelming at times and nothing gets done. I know I should break it down into managable bits but which bit do you start with? Job hunting has to be done on a regular basis so has to be done as well as, then there's the fact that I'm a world champion procrastinator in a special category of my own

Tolly the size 12 from 14 years ago will definitely be smaller than todays size 12. Have you kept your size 12's for all those years? If so it's time to treat yourself I was last a size 12 about 3 years ago but I'm sure I looked leaner then than than I do now at a size 12. I think I look matronly! And you will be able to shift your tummy, give low carb a try if you haven't already, that always gets the weight moving for me.

at your dad thinking you should stay single until DS is grown up. I think that may be is way of protecting you, and ensuring that he has nothing to worry about.

Chaotic, that was my first thought re the loss of height.

I know what you mean about finding things overwhelming. I have periods where I feel the same but I just go with it and don't worry about it. The mood passes and then you will find yourself with a renewed energy, there will be no stopping you then. BUT, at the moment your motivation should be that you need to get everything in order before you get this job!

Everything?!?!?! I only have two days

Seriously though, I do have a back up outfit if all else fails and I intend to do some research on this firm tomorrow and prepare for the interview then too. The good thing is that it's at 3pm so I don't have to rush around in the morning getting ready. There's a website where I can check out the best way to get there, did that before confirming interview but will print out directions and check on map just to reassure myself I know where I'm going.

There are some cheeky twats out there...

"hey, so do you have a job? I need a woman who can support me while I play video games all day."

I don't know whether to or at his cheek.

You sound very well prepared .

He sounds like he has a sense of humour.

time.. lol yes I have kept some things I couldn't bare to part with like my 501's and some nice French connection things. so sad I can't get them on lol.. but I can fit my Jodphers on from when I was 13 :-D they are stretchy though..

so they guy I'm meeting sat has asked if I would like him to pick me up but I said no i'll meet him. nobody does that when you first new anyone do they? I've told him I'd prefer to drive myself the first time I meet him. that's not rude is it?

I just checked out his profile and yes he does. His ideal first date is robbing a bank and escaping in a ferrari or a sandwich at subway would do. He also claims to be Batman

No, not rude at all. I don't drive and I'd always make my own way to the date location.

I got picked up from home for a date Tolly but watch really told me off, proper told me off! No, it's not rude, it's being assertive, and assertive is good.

Chaotic have you replied to him? He sounds like fun

Yes, I did, couldn't resist, I do like a man who can make me laugh Just a pity he's too young for it to go anywhere. He's 24 btw

:) I did tell you off, didn't i :)

Tolly, its just safer. You have to be safe..plus you might not get on, or he might smell. Or have a hidden mullet. So being able to leave of your own accord is way better.

Chaotic, I get overwhelmed with stuff quite often. My plan is to tackle two things ( after work... After picking dd up from school) so today I walked the dog, cut lawns front and Back, and blasted the patio with weedkiller. Then I did dinner, homework, bath child etc...

Ive got a list of stuff a mile long, but I'm not superwoman. Tomorrow It's going to be dog Walking abd painting the decking ( again after work etc) small steps and you will get it done :) am excited about your interview...

Yes, you told me off for a whole page! And I must admit, it is rather uncomfortable being stuck in a car with someone you don't really like, and then they have to drop you home again too. I wouldn't do it again.

I walk the dog everyday. I get up, get dressed and walk the dog, if I don't I don't get any peace until I do. Can you tell who's boss here?

The do two things a day sounds good though. I may try that after my interview, I'm concentrating on that for the next couple of days. I'm excited about my interview too. I'm not holding my breath, blue isn't a good colour on my skin, but still it's an interview and I'll get experience if nothing else. Also, being the eternal optimist, I might even get the job.

Hi everyone. Still lurking and occasionally posting but Ive just got a message from some who says they are 39 and looks like this. Heavy paper round much?

www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=23430273

hello, long time lurker here :)
but I feel compelled to comment on that POF profile seasidegirly.
never mind the heavy paper round look, check out the prison tattoo's and general feel of illiteracy
he may as well have 'I am very very bad news' tattoo'd on his head instead of those 'oh so original' stars

Just choked on my tea looking at that, how could I put it...interesting look...
The "I am very very bad news" tattoo would have to be flashing too, just to make sure that you got the message......ROFL

I didnt see the tattoo but why would you have a statement like that inked on your body.
So, yesterday i changed my attitude. New approach to pof.
Im very clear that I don't want pen friends.
I've set profile to ie to increase traffic.
Then I state that I would prefer to meet for a drink and will never make a decision about intimate encountering until it is right for me.
Although its quite direct on the second message i state that I would like to meet for a coffee. Coffee is good for me.
Then I see what the reaction is. I figure that there is some motivation as they contacted me first.
A couple said they had never met anyone and were there for chats and laughs.
In fact a lot had said they haven't actually met anyone, just messaging.
So deleted them.
I've the potential of 3 coffees. 1 in London with a bloke who works in the prison (I hope he just works there). 1 with a sports physio in the midlands. 1 with a man who works in London 1 week a month.
I feel so much better about myself now.
I have taken inspiration from you ladies as blips aside, many of you seem v sorted. And I liked mrs cellophane's approach.
In real,life I have a couple of male friends who drain me with self absorption and diatribes about girlfriends. So I have been v direct with them too, stating that they need to set their boundaries in order to keep their emotional health intact.
Post a bit long but Im feeling good today. It's all about control isn't it? By that I mean setting in your head what you will and won't tolerate.

Oh I don't get any messages off okcupid. Zero!

Yes Sunshine, exactly that! The more you have set in your mind what you want and don't want, the less disappointing dates you will have, because you won't entertain anyone who doesn't tick your boxes. As for your date with the prison guy, I think he most probably does work there, unless he has a day release coming up or is planning a break out

I'm pleased you are feeling good about yourself

Time, Thank you. Prison man has already said he feels horny so I've said that rather keep talk like that to zero for now. I'll look out for a tag.
My best potential is a tailor who works in London one week in 4. He has messaged once asking if I'd liked to meet and then messaged with the dates he is in London.
I feel liberated and in control.
What I want is a man with similar levels of emotional resilience as I have. And this approach will easily scupper those who haven't, and they are in the majority.
Just as an aside, this happens in every walk of life. I often short list and interview. We could get 100apply, short list to 40 with the knowledge 10 will come for an interview if we are lucky Even though they all said they really wanted the job. Same as dating.