Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

i dont even know where he lives....... a pub in the evening would be fine with me. But it will have to be evening - so lack of sun :)
And, im not going to an ' in town' pub with no parking ( costs too much for taxis, and i dont feel safe wondering around at night on my own)
And i presume he cant get to a ' not in town' pub.

I can see this isnt going to go anywhere...

congratulations chaotic! interviews are great.

and sounds very interesting notsure.. or is it noluck with the clown? I'm sorry I can't see here!! I reckon it's just so nice when you meet someone special, it gives hope for the future that there are such people out there...

watch I definitely need to go shopping. Am feeling shabby and most clothes have various baby related stains. Can't be good for my career at the very least.

Maybe this weekend when I have some time!

I am doing a lot of sitting on my hands - the Hippy came back from holiday yesterday (I think) and so far have heard nothing. Sooo trying not to text (yet) since I sent the last text. Hmm. Or is it good to send something like "how was the holiday?" Potentially en français since he is a Francophone (just count yourself lucky that you dont have the extra linguistic complications my friends). My instincts say WAIT BEFORE TEXTING but my fingers are itching..

Otherwise also sitting on my hands as regards the Student. It's killing me sharing a house and seeing him all the time but obv not doing anything about it.

Basically I AM FRUSTRATED!!!

watch, just take it as it comes and try to stop over thinking. It's early days, he is nice. If he was a waster then yes, I would be saying don't bother, but he seems really nice. And there is no rush is there? I wouldn't dump a decent man because he couldn't drive or seeing him might be a bit difficult, I would just be prepared to see a bit less of him. As long as things were good when I did see him I would be happy.

PS watch give it a chance I guess!

Watch I am guessing it could be the lack of 'WOW' factor that is making you feel it could all be too much effort? If that is the case, if you don't see yourself going any further with this one, if you don't see yourself in a relationship with him, then maybe it isn't worth your time and effort.

Chaotic! excellent news! fingers firmly crossed (and legs, but as there isn't even a vague sniff of sexual intimacy on the horizon at the moment, that goes without saying..)

watch I agree with time. I think you're looking for reasons to not progress because whilst he is perfectly nice, there's no jaw-dropping lust postential. Do you even fancy him? a bit?

i dont know... he hasnt replied yet. ill see what he says, go from there.

I just dont want all the effort to end up being on my side ( because its been that way in many past relationships)

i cant even say if i fancy him, i dont know.
its not a no, but its not a yes either.

watch in past dates I've agreed to meet them in Manchester, partially, I have to admit, because I didn't want to be seen by anyone I know. I don't advertise the fact that I'm dating to anyone because, I'm a pretty private person, I don't want all the "Have you met anyone yet?" and other things that people say, but I digress. The point being that I have to get a train there and the station I get the train from is about half an hours walk which is pretty isolated so it means a taxi at least on the way back and quite often on the way there because I've been wearing heels. I've also met people in Liverpool, which is approximately half the price, so not as bad. This is one of the reasons I won't meet just anyone but it's something I'm prepared to do if I think the person is worth it. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't be discouraged just because he doesn't drive and it makes things slightly harder.

Like Time says I'd rather see less of someone who is worth it, than more of someone who isn't just because they're nearer.

Thank you everyone for the good luck wishes :)

Snape I can cross mine for the very same reasons

watch I can understand you not wanting all the effort to come from you. Just because he can't drive doesn't mean he can't make some effort, it'll actually be interesting to see how much he does make. That could be helpful in helping you decide whether you want to continue seeing him or not.

watch by the time the second date is over you will know whether you fancy him or not. I would say see him again then decide where you want to take it from there.

PS. No post! Again!

Yes, watch, don't make the mistake of judging him by all the others you have dated, he could turn out to be completely different. An open mind is the key, until proved otherwise.

no post again??!?!??!

ill see him again for sure. decide after that.

chaotic - i get you. i dont tell anyone that im dating, they all got bored of hearing about it about 2.5 years ago anyway. And then you just get bombarded with questions, so it gets embarassing.

Ill tell by any effort he makes i guess. ive given him the choice of some things, so i guess i just wait and see what he says...
( though hes still not replied)

I know!! Every single day I get sodding post, junk mail mainly but it's still post! This week, no post!!

I'm pleased you are going to see him again and yes, sit back and let him make the effort, one of your standards should be a man who puts in effort, cos if they can't put in the effort at this early stage, well, they aren't going to be that good at it later on are they? No, they aren't.

Am I missing something here? Are you waiting for something Time? Feel free to tell me to stop being so nosey btw

Has anyone seen today's google page? If you haven't take a look.

that's brilliant! DD will love that!

I'm going, as soon as I've found my bag that is. Next here I come

Good luck Chaotic, we only have a small NEXT store in town so I struggle to find anything, hope yours is better.

Good luck chaotic

watch I am 23 (24 in 2months) and I don't drive, in fact I only got my provisional on tuesday.

I am going home changing and off into town to nose around and buy my mums birthday present for Saturday.

Not driving wouldn't put me off, my mum still can't and she is almost 65! And doesn't live at home obviously. LOL

Yes, that is the problem. He's nice. More than nice. I can feel something ticking between us, just hope that when we actually meet, it'll still be ticking. Potentials. Slightly fed up with men in general otherwise. Perhaps I've just got my hopes up. I mean, I would SO like him to be up to my expectations/standards (that sounds, or should I say, reads, terrible, but true). I would really like to meet someone like he seems to be. For once.
Oh dear, must get back to work, to keep my mind off him. Hope you all have a nice one. When I get time, will reread thread and catch up on all of you. Virtual hugs to all.

Well I think I'm going to change my surname to Robinson, I seem to be attracting some very young men.
Had a very interesting exchange with a 30 yr old on Oasis, I'm 44.
Apparently he thinks my mouth was designed for a certain thing that men like.

I know I have a cheeky smile but have never encountered such strange conversations in r/l.
Maybe it's a vibe I give out?

It's certainly a lot of fun.

child i assume that is kissing and nothing more LOL. Cos of course you have only ever been kissed, just Like me!

I am spending tonight with a drink and a film, on my sofa alone.......or more accurate with you guys. If you don't mind or on the phone to my bestie

Chaotic- did you find anything?

Noluck, well, goodluck!!!!

Sponge- hope tge ex isn't about too much tonight.

Date confirmed for next wed evening, drinks at nice bar on the marina. And I shall wear my lovely outfit from today :)

I kinda feel a bit better about it now. He.suggested a ton of activities, dinner, fims, park, pub. Said whatever I wanted... So, thats an effort isn't it. And he can't have any trouble getting to those places, or he wouldn't have said them ( possiblly.my closemindness that you cant.go anywhere without a car, just because I feel that way with no car)

Now that sounds lovely Watch. And yes, I would say that's a good case of making an effort. Happy days!