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Porn - I beg you for your advice

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ConfusedGirlSuze · 17/05/2012 15:49

Hello ladies. Used to post on here quite a bit but not recently. I just want to talk and offload.

Been with boyfriend, nearly 2 years - overall happy. Although I went through a dark time with depression although I am out on the other side now :)

However, I have a porn problem. He watches it - not excessively, I'm pretty sure he'd fall in the normal bracket. I've seen bits and bobs either on his emails, which he left on the screen or his browsing history - and it's just normal girls with big boobs stuff - but I just can't shake this pit-of-my-stomach-sick-feeling-I'm-being-cheated-on. We have an ok sex life. Not that often - once a week or so. We've spoken about the porn - he says it's completley different to sex etc - and that it's 'just what men do'. I dread leaving the house - knowing that he's probably doing it the entire time. I love him so much he's my best friend and I don't want to feel like this. I want to just accept that it happens - as I'm sure many girlfriends/wives do and not feel - which I do register is, kind of over the top. I don't want a load of 'dump the bastard' replies - I just want to know how you deal with it.

Thanks in advance,

CGS x

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ConfusedGirlSuze · 18/05/2012 09:29

Yes I think you're right solidgoldbrass. I do feel better today :)
It's just baby steps. Getting over my Dad and all the issues that go with that.
I've never felt like this before with old boyfriends re: porn - I didn't give a monkeys and that was waaaay before my Dad. So the two are obviously linked together - Thank you again - I do feel better/stronger today and got a big girlie weekend planned x

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