Just to come back with the BPD, I wrote this for a different thread
I haven't talked to him yet, he really is in a bad way
I have struggled with my husband for years. At first, he would just react to everything in an unusual way. Unpredictable, but also he would do things that just didn't make sense. E.g he would suggest doing things in a much more complicated way, or suggest going to certain shops in a completely illogical order, putting hours on the day
Then it was the intense anger, and the control, and the abuse aimed at me.
Mood swings, hyperactivity, complete overreactions to small inconsequential things.
Can't work out how other people will feel about things, cannot ever put himself in their shoes
Anxiety, has serious stress/worry issues which result in physical responses. Has really bad stomach issues , which can be immediate, following a row.
Emptiness, loneliness, hates his life( which is pretty good)
grass is always greener somewhere else
Really truly believes he is hard done by, cannot see the good in his life
Impulsive self damaging behaviour
drinks too much, too much drugs, gambles on everything
sexual promiscuity before I met him
possibly infidelity since, involvement with escorts
Munchausen's
He pretended he had a brain tumour, radiotherapy
Cannot reason with him, once he has an idea in his head, that is it, no changing it.