Tantric massage therapies

[Patrickjane]

is this for real?
Official, professional?

Of course you can, garlic. Maybe we could set up an entertainments agency for mumsnetters who want to give their dhs/dps a night to remember before they kick them into orbit around planet offufuck

I take it you haven't asked him about this? Are you going to? I would be fizzing with it. I would love to hear his justification for it the idiot.

Get angry.

This is sardonic humour, Pat. The type that's expressed between gritted teeth.

Given half a chance, we'll be there to tear him limb from limb hold your hand and try to help you see that this isn't the end of your world - it's the end of his delusion that he can get away disrespecting you by behaving like a oversexed schoolboy total twunt

PJ, the slightly manic tone on your thread is because we are utterly pissed off for you

and your H is laughable, truly he is

not so funny for you though

Its only garlicfucker who is trying to derive some kind of pervers amusement out of this.

garlicfucker, no need to be sarcastic with me. There are a lot of massage therapists who stick to providing a pforessional massage.

This is one of those situations where you have to laugh otherwise you'd cut his your throat.

It's not at all funny now but one day it will be, honey.

Having a very bad day

Very sorry to hear it Pj. We're here if it helps xx

I think gf is trying to help

kitty, unless you do topless, sexualised massage, I am not sure why you are so defensive

massage forms a small part of what I do, but I am not offended by anybody deriding the more unsavoury ways that a perfectly respectable practice has been co-opted by the sex industry

it would be like a ball room dancer getting pissed off by someone criticising pole-dancing

PJ, you are having a fucking awful day, and I'm so sorry x

have you had a chance to think how you are going to handle this ?

stay quiet (for now) and do some more digging around ? that is what I would do. The way things stand, there is only proof of him "looking" and many men come back to say they were "just curious". It's utter BS of course, but with no other proof you are stuck.

Hang on Hang on!!!

Right, firstly do you know that your dh has acted on this?
Secondly, how many of us on this thread have gone away to google tantric whatever it is?
Thirdly think this. If our dh or dp came and looked at the browsing history what would they see? Does that mean we were up to know good or just finding out what it is all about?

His work colleagues could have been talking about it. He may have come home to google and find out more, just like us.

Don't kill him yet. Until you get to the bottom of it.

If you can't be bothered to read a currently short thread, SodThat, here's PJ's fourth post:

While I was away he made an enquiry on a web site, reply came through on email. It said call me on .....

Website looks ok until there is a pic of her huge boobs

It's local

I've just visited a ton of websites about tantric massage. I haven't, however, contacted any local practitioners and given them my email address.

He sent a request for something, sodthat

not just "browsing"

he gave them his email request in return for something

that's not looking good

I agree Op needs to slow right down though, and do some more digging around

oh!!! sorry!

Still think she needs to err on the side of caution.

I agree with that, sod

Nothing in history, but he knows I know my way round a computer better than him.

He has his own account, hasn't hidden any statements, but he always withdraws lots of cash to last him. I do his taxes, so he knows I see his statements
He will have used his phone.

I need his phone bill, but think he gets it online.

Now the fucking house alarm is going off

I have broken laptop, crappy phone.
Sat engineer just left without fixing the bloody sky
And now faulty house alarm
Ffs

He's just phoned me,

Bloody hell, Patrick, you are having a day of it!

Am quite sure this is poor advice, but sometimes I choose to ... run away.

If, by any chance, you decide to cancel everything and fuck off to a Holiday Inn with DC, you'll have my blessing, for one :)

Try getting hold of his online mobile bill.

I am sure you have looked in his deleted folders - my IT savvy H forgot to clear his deleted folder...

If he was looking for tantric massage he was definitely looking for some sexual extras. No doubt about it. Sorry PJ. Best to confront him and ask why he is seeking tantric services.

Well the confrontation will have to wait.
Will try and dig around a bit for his phone bill.
These visitors are here til Friday, then another friend is coming on Friday and we have a busy weekend.
These visitors are my family, he was charm personified with them for an hour last night. Bastard.

Do you love him ? Is the relationship otherwise going smoothly ? If its just sensual touching that he is craving for maybe you could offer to give him a massage.

Wtf kitty?
Husband books prostitute - he mustn't be getting enough so you should offer him a massage? I haven't heard such garbage in a long time.

OP wait til you tell your family what he's been up to. They'll see the slimy fucker for what he is then.

I dunno, kitty, if I went outside my relationships for everything I craved I'd have had loads of affairs with celebrity chefs and travel agents! It's no excuse, really, is it? You want your wife to give a more expert hand job, you get a book and learn it together.

Theregoestheyear, WTF you talking about ? He didnt book an escort or prostitute, he booked a tantric massage. I am trying to help OP in maintaining the relationship together but you seem interested in proving that he is a slimy fucker.

kittycatwoman Mon 14-May-12 17:33:53

"If he was looking for tantric massage he was definitely looking for some sexual extras."

I don't see the difference between a topless woman offering a hand job & optional bum tickle as a "masseuse" or as an "escort". Considering that most prostitutes advertise as massage services anyway, neither do they. You seem to be on your own with this one, Kitty!