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What would you do - crap birthday pressie

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soaccidentprone · 05/05/2012 16:12

I'm 46 (today)
I asked dh for a new dressing gown, pointing him in the direction of m&s. I told him it was a test as to how well he knows me. We've been together 13 years. We have 2 black cats, and 2 ds's. I only have 1 white item of clothing - a t-shirt. I asked for a size 16-18 as I have put on 2 stone since I broke my leg last year.

this is what he bought me.

I like it, but it's not me. Plus he bought me a 12-14. The size I used to be.

I know it's my own fault for not being specific enough and showing him on the internet, but good god, after all these years together. This is so impractical, and so not me. Is this what he thinks I would like? Or did he just buy what he likes?

Why do blokes have to be so bloody useless at pressie buying?

Should I go with him to change it, or should I let him go by himself. Or should I just not bother and put it in a cupboard, before taking it to a charity shop in a couple of years? (Harsh but true!)

What would you do?

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soaccidentprone · 06/05/2012 12:48

Thank you all for your input Grin

And at least it didn't have horses heads on (or any other animal!).

Yes I am an unappreciative bitch, but my husband usually gets it right. I also don't really like birthdays - it reminds me of my own mortality, and it also reminds me of how much I miss my parents - my mum died 6 years ago, and my dad 23 years ago.

I haven't said anything to dh apart from the fact it's a little small. I'm not that tactless, and thought it was better to offload here than say anything hurtful to him.

And I didn't send him out with the missive 'think of it as a test of how much you love me', I had a discussion with dh about what he could buy me - I specified the size, but not the colour, and I tried to say it in a jokey kind of a way. I had already done a recognizance to m&s and had seen half a dozen or so which I liked, so I didn't think it would be too difficult. He probably did the hearts=love and I appreciate the sentiment behind it, but ever practical I always think white = more washing.

It's our anniversary today and he bought me a lovely pendant this in blue, which I love. It's probably not to all of your tastes but it is 'me' and I appreciate the effort dh has gone too.

Anyway, must go and do lunch.

By the way - when I was 24 my mum and sister bought me a truly hideous vase with dried lavender in. I put it on the top shelf in the living room and tried not to look at it! So god knows what thought went into that Grin

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PooPooInMyToes · 06/05/2012 12:54

I like the pendant!

tribpot · 06/05/2012 13:06

That's a brilliant idea, love the tear-drop shape design.

JustFab · 06/05/2012 13:07

That is even worse that he normally gets things right and you sulk over one mistake.

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