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style advice please

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stitch · 14/02/2006 09:07

i bought this jacket for ds1 aged 8.10 dh thinks it is horrible. and should either be returned, or chucked in the bin. he says he never wants to see ds in it. says he looks like an estate kid in it. [please no debate about how clasist he is. because he can be very much so in private, but not really in public. iyswim]

he bought him a coat which is one of those mock layer things from debenhams. like a sort fo sweat hoodie underneath, with a formal suit jacket thing as the top part. in a horrible brown colour. im sorry i cant do a link as its not on the website. i think he will look lke a ponce in it. and be laughed at in the playground.

whats the mn verdict please.

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stitch · 14/02/2006 09:12

he also bought him these loafers for school a couple of months ago. ds cant get his feet into them easily, and has ended up shoving the heel end down so they are like slippers. dh got very angry about it. when i pointed out that they were the wrong design for an 8 yr old, who really needed velcroed, or lace ups from clarks in a width fitted size, it became my fault.
ggrrrrr....

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blueteddy · 14/02/2006 09:13

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mummytosteven · 14/02/2006 09:15

I'm not that keen on camofluage mock/military personally, but I think you've got a better idea than DH as to what is appropriate for an 8 year old. Sounds like DH is determined for DS to look like a little gentleman - which isn't really going to go down that well with DS or at the school playground. The shoes really aren't appropriate for kid's school shoes.

bluesky · 14/02/2006 09:16

I like the jacket. My dh wouldnt dare buy clothes/shoes for kids, he knows its my job and he'd only get it wrong!!

Bozza · 14/02/2006 09:17

Right personally I'm not sure about either coat. The one you chose seems OK in style etc and definitely practical but I am not keen on all that camouflage type look. I can't quite picture the one your DH has bought for him but to me it doesn't sound practical for school - your mention of the playground suggests that he will be wearing it there.

I agree with you about buying proper width fitted shoes - especially for school shoes which are worn so much and need to be able to withstand the beating kids give them. There might be an argument for not bothering for dress shoes that are only worn occasionally.

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stitch · 14/02/2006 09:19

i wasnt too sure about the camouflage myself, but it is covered at the front, which in ds's case is essential as he never ever zips up.
i think possibly because of his negativity i am more determined to like the camoflage.
dh thinks i am the last person to know anything about style .

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mummytosteven · 14/02/2006 09:21

do you have friends with kids of a similar age? maybe DH would be influenced by seeing what sort of stuff their kids wear?

Bozza · 14/02/2006 09:23

Do you normally do this? Both buy a coat each and then compete about which one is best?

I buy most of the kid's clothes that are not presents/handmedowns. DH will occasionally be sent on a specific mission - eg to buy DS a pair of jeans when he was looking after him in the school hols. But I can't imagine him just turning up with something.

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stitch · 14/02/2006 09:24

he never see's their kids. he's always busy working.

on sunday it was dd's third birthday party. and since he didtn see any little boys with anything exactly like that, he thinks he knows all.
thank you all for your input. i am going to cut and paste some of these comments to him. it wont change his mind, but still.

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stitch · 14/02/2006 09:28

no , he bought the coat specifically coz i bought the jacket and he didnt like it. normally i am the one who gets them stuff. and pester s him about shoes, which he will eventually, usually about six months later get for them, or give me money for them.
if he ever gets stuff, it is usually unsuitable. like the 45 pound raw silk dressfrom monsoon for dd then aged 2.6. with the twenty pound ballet pummp style, non width fitted matching shoes, and the twenty odd pound matching wool cardi.

its all about control really.

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blueteddy · 14/02/2006 09:34

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Bozza · 14/02/2006 09:34

Hmmm it sounds like it is.

Bozza · 14/02/2006 09:36

Yes blueteddy that's one thing but I assume he is not also criticising what you buy for the children, as Stitch's DH is. I think that is where the issue lies.

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stitch · 14/02/2006 09:49

maybe i should return both jackets? and let ds choose something really innocous looking?
i feel adamant about not returning the jacket i bought. but the yelling that occured this morning is not what i want in my home either. and i dont want to put ds in the middle of something that isnt his fault. if i insist on him wearing the boden, dh will feel i am challenging him when he see s it. and will make ds very very uncomfortable.
any suggestions?

at the cream ralph lauren jumper. definitly related to my dh.

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blueteddy · 14/02/2006 10:01

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Bozza · 15/02/2006 11:11

Hmm Stitch that might be your best option - both coats go back and DS choses a new one. And I think maybe your DS is getting to the age of having some say in his clothes anyway.

BonyM · 15/02/2006 11:25

I'm not keen on the camouflage look myself but I bet ds loves it (and reckon his friends will think it's cool).

Btw - don't think dear Johnny Boden would be too keen to hear his clothes described as something that "estate" kids would wear , if, as I'm assuming, he's using the term in a derogatory way...

doormat · 15/02/2006 11:27

tbh I like the camo jacket but not for school, I would have it as a knocking around coat for after school.
I would take your ds shopping and let him pick what style he likes, he will know what other kids are wearing iykwim if you are worried about him standing away from the crowd.

MrsBadger · 15/02/2006 11:54

I like the style of the camo jacket... just not the camo. Perhaps the plain navy?
Agree that over-the-head jackets are great for habitual non-zippers, and they're hard to find, so I'd hang on to this style, if not the pattern.
And of course all of the above apply only if DS likes it - if he doesn't he'll never wear it and it might as well go back and save you the money.

I know it's not addressing the root of the problem, but Bicester Village and similar outlets have label stuff at less-stupid prices if your DH keeps insisting on Proper Clothes.

Or spend the £4 or whatever it is on Junior or similar poncey child magazine, and do the 'Ooh, they've got a jumper just like that Ralph Lauren one in M&S for £10' thing.
Make sure DH sees the magazine pics of kids wearing clothes you like so he knows they're acceptable.

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stitch · 15/02/2006 21:00

thank you all for your good advice. just an update.
took dh's jacket back and bought a simple boring, but warm one with attached hood, with fur trim, which i wasnt sure about, but ds loves. not coompletely water proof like the kagoul, but at least shower resistant. sadly a zipped thing.
couldnt return the boden as it is awol. but did email him to tell him that.
after all the aggro with the jacket and the party, he got me chocolates yesterday. ferrero rocher which i love. /

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