I have written on here recently regarding me and DP. I have decided to separate from him, we have an 18 month old daughter, all very sad, but alas he won't come to Relate and we can't address our issues and communicate well,he attacks if he hears anything he doesn't agree with and seems to hear his own version of what I've just said. He has an underlying attitude of belittling me (he says I frustrate him which is why he says things in anger).... I am now looking for a flat with my DD.
Anyway.
Tonight, we talked about the split, about our relationship etc. As always we don't agree, he sees his truth and stubbornly refuses to take responsibility for his actions. I see both sides and that we are BOTH the cause. Things got heated in conversation,I said nothing abusive at all, just points about our past problems that he didnt' agree with and then he said
"If you were a bloke I'd knock your teeth down your throat".
How would you have reacted to this?
I reacted with disbelief,and told him it was being abusive. He said it wasn't, and that he was frustrated and that as he said "if you were a bloke" prior to the threat therefore it wasn't a threat. I asked him how he would feel if he heard his Dad say that to his Mum. He said I was overacting and that I'm crazy. I told him firmly that he cannot speak to me like that and that it's utterly wrong.
Have I overreacted?