Hi,
I am currently living in my childhood home with my dp and 2 dd's (2.9 and 9 mths). My dad lives next door but 1- large ish houses so not on my door step.
My dad and I haven't spoken in 2 years. Not fallen out but he's an alcoholic and I try to contact him phone/ email but he rarely responds. I always send cards telling him an update and I love him etc.
I get nothing in return. I used to get the odd pissed phone call but that's stopped. He has never met dc's and missed every birthday since he moved out when I was 15.
He got married and didn't tell me to
Someone 1/2 his age from the Ukraine and when I used to try to visit on Xmas she
wouldn't let me in.
My dais now in australia would meet him once a year and she says he's not in good health.
So I thought I'd take the opportunity (were only here a few weeks) to pop in to see him (I always feel guilty incase he regrests things.
So how should I approach it?
Also I feel stronger to do this as I work in a rehab place so know he's an alcoholic but not that bad iyswim.
Also as a kid I think one of the reasons he distanced himself is I was severely annorexic and he couldn't cope etc. He is a proud ex army guy.
Well done for gettin through the essay !!