DH says I've made him unhappy for 2yrs

[Alipiggie]

and that he doesn't feel he can carry on. He says that he's tried to change me and I never never listen. Two ds's 18mnths apart meant that I was constantly busy as SAHM and now he says he felt left out as I did everything!!!! Emigrated to US with him and now the ds's have settled looks like if he won't go for counselling we'll be heading back to UK and single parenthood!! Just looking for friendly voices as feeling very very low. PS found out he'd been having an affair with new colleague here just after we arrived and that was all my fault too.

Hi MM thanks for that. Would love to meet up sometime soon. awayninahmanger what a small world. You must be about 2yrs behind me. Eunice Phillips haha that's a blast from the past, she didn't like me as my mum was on the PTA and as a teacher had a few things to say. Judith Rawnsley was headgirl in my year. Remember her?? Sue Montgomery, she's sadly died who else Sue Miller Ann Maguire all my class. Would be great to meet up when you're up with your dad. Arriving home on 23 Thurs next week. Trial seperation told him wasn't prepared to change as I liked me as a person. Shocked him that I'm prepared to move on. He just became too obsessed with the fact that I'd no time for him. Well when I'm not here doing everything guess that'll make a difference. One month at a time. But new life here I come

i havent read all of your posts, but i have to say that a man who has an affair and talks about changing the woman who moved across the world to stay at home raising his children has a lot to learn about making someone happy. i am sorry this is happening to you alipiggie and i just hope u and your ds come thru ok.; xx

MM, I used to wrk in Staters and went to colege there

straters = stratford aon avon

Beety
I KNEW what you meant when I saw Straters!!

{wanders off to make tea wondering if we know each other}

mm..so what doyou do? did you go to swcfe?
how old are you?

Alipiggie, I'm a few miles away from Fleet we were contemplating a move to Church Crookham but can't persuade dh

how are you galaxy

Fine thanks beety. Started new job just after Christmas so busy busy busy. How's you?

am good. really enjoying halft erm weith kids. doing loadfs with them as theya re older and it is more fun.

are you on the up?

i'm sorry but he sounds like an infantile idiot - how ridiculous - you made him unhappy for2 years -0 if it was that bad - why not leave sooner - why wait so long - to me it is just a ridulous excuse to pardon his affair - sounds similar to my exh - he had to have an affair with my best friend almost the whole time we were briefly married because I was such a bitch to live with. How childish to blame one's poor behaviour on someone else.

Tried to change you - what are you a light bulb???

While it is hard - I wouldn't feel like crap - who wants to be like a 50 ( no offence to those who are) when you are an amazing 40 yo. I get the feeling no matter what you did to change (?) to use his words - it would never be good enough - he needs to blame you cause he knows having the affair was wrong and that is how he justifies it in his little mind.

Sorry that is had been so tough for you and you have had this happen so far away from your family and your support.

Hope thinks are looking better for you.

you are coming back next week? good god that has all happened quickley. are you ok? is it for a small break or for good?

ali?

Beety...born 1970
didnt go to swcfe but brother did
work in IT

you are a young chicken MM, so unlikely we crossed paths.

spring chicken - thanks Beety
I always thought you were about my age or younger though

i am just immature MM. am 43 now

haha I had forgotten her name was Eunice! Vile woman! Hope we can catch up sometime Good Luck