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[Gay40]

Welcome!

The body language thing can be very confusing. I think it's the gut feeling you get overall, which doesn't sound very Inclined. I can be very tactile with people I'm close to which can seem intimate to an outsider's point of view.
BUT - I do have a feeling that the mention of dating men and moving abroad is subconscious distancing.

So you think she really is definitely not interested Gay?

My gut feeling is based on what she said, not how she behaved. I don't know which is the more reliable.

sorry, I should say my gut feeling is she's not interested, based on what she's said. I could understand her being tactile if we were close, but we're not especially. Still very early days in terms of getting to know each other. But I'm not tactile at all, so don't know quite how to read that behaviour in others.

I think it is a combination of verbal and non-verbal, but ultimately your gut instinct. More dates, definitely.

And should i be a bit more thrusting in terms of getting her out again, or wait for her to contact me?

Polly how did you meet?

Hi digbert at work, about 2 years ago. We don't work together regularly though, can go weeks without crossing paths.

Take the lead. We know where letting her make the arrangements gets us !!!!!!!!!

oh yes And I still need to get her bloody phone number.

Also, you need her phone number in case one of the children fall ill just before you meet up.

Well I did email her at lunchtime, but I've not had a reply to that. It was just a general how are you, thanks for last night thing.

Hi Polly

Just had a D&M chat with dh and he has agreed to me going to a local meet up for lesbian and bi women on Thursday. I have, quite literally, no one else irl who I can talk to about this and despite potential conflict of interest he agreed it would be good for me to meet some people who might have an inkling what I am going through, or at least a non homophobic response.
We talked about what separation would look like for us, and neither of us want him and dd to live apart. There is no good long-term solution to this but we realise that we will be living together for a significant amount of time still and thankfully both of us want the best for each other and don't want to make things harder than they need to be.

crushing your DH sounds like a fantastic chap.

He is, Polly. He really is. Which makes it harder to put him through this.

I really hope you can find the answers and long term support you need Crushing

Thanks mumbling, me too.

Evening all.
Polly - all that leg squeezing and leaning in...I consider myself to be fairly tactile but I wouldn't squeeze a leg unless I knew the person really well or liked them A LOT or was checking out their muscle tone. There's something a bit iffy about your WIQ in that she seems to give mixed messages verbally and physically which is quite confusing. Could you invite her to your house to see how she is on your territory? Any way you possibly grin and bear it and have a massage or would you rather suck eggs ?
I think Gay is right about gut instinct and also think if there is a strong vibe/atmosphere between you both it usually means there is chemistry and feelings are pretty much mutual.
Crushing - your dp sounds very understanding but it must be a tricky situation. What if you suggested an open r-ship? I imagine it can only work if both parties agree not to get jealous/involved etc but might be a way forward for you both to explore other options while remaining together.

*can possibly...

Hi loveis really would rather suck on a rotten egg than be massaged sadly

I've just has some really bad news, someone I was very fond of has been found dead this afternoon.

Oh Polly - that's terrible. So sorry to hear you've had bad news. Hope you're ok?

It's always such a shock when someone dies. Reminds us to SEIZE the day
and grabble reluctant WIQs in denial and DNG to the ground

I'm ok, upset obv and shocked and just had to tell another friend about it, which was awful. He was a lovely man.