The Brave Babes Battle Bus - BOINGing Into Spring, The Jesus(WhatNext) Way!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

I'm one of the Brave Babes aboard the Battle Bus, on the journey to sobriety.

We have drinkers, non-drinkers, inbetweeners, notquitesurers...... which is all fantastic.

No matter who you are or where you're at in your personal quest to get where you want to be, come grab a seat and join in the natter, just jump right in.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been up until now, HERE is a link to the last thread and the ones before it

See you soon.

Oh no - wedding spreadsheet is no longer there!! Sorry isinde - it was a great spreadsheet too..

Ok ... to the rescue. Now then isinde

Have you thought about...
Flowers
Cake
Entertainment (if needed)
Invites
Outfits (oooh, what will DTs wear )
Photographer
Gift List

Perhaps I will do you a spreadsheet as a wedding present.

www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/

isindie I know people who take 4 years to plan their wedding, and other brides who take 4 weeks. Somehow the job expands to fill the time available

Although if you do need the carpet in the venue to co-ordinate with the colour of the registrar's eye-shadow then you may need a little more than 4 weeks (and of course to chime in with the theme of the day, the flavour of ice-cream from the vintage ice-cream cart, the exact hue of the fireworks, the music of the wandering minstrel player (musical instrument not chocolates), the photo booth disguised as a tardis, the ribbons you're using for your handfasting, AND the drink that you're sharing in your loving cup).

Oh yes! It all happens like that

Today started well, despite aches. Felt resolute and got quite a lot done. Haven't been grumpy with DD either (helped by the fact that she's being lovely and not arguing with absolutely everything), which feels great.

Did a big shop and got plenty of healthy food, and cheese of course. Got to the checkout and it was really bloody expensive though.
Had decided to make chicken curry in the slow cooker, as my auto-booze isn't quite so strong with spicy or hot dishes. Got back though and just felt bloody exhausted - headache, back really aching. I then got all anxious about how much I spent and how much calorific food I'm eating at the moment (I bought hot cross buns, and lots more cheese) I also bought expensive stuff like grapes and berries and innocent smoothies that I don't usually buy). Now I'm feeling porky (trousers uncomfortably tight at the moment), about to get considerably porkier, and exceedingly profligate.

I'm saving money on wine though, right? That'd be a fiver a day at least. And I'm saving on calories too in not drinking, yes?

Just feeling wobbly wobbly wobbly.

Ok losing the plot a bit now. Just shouted at DD for arguing with me. My head is thumping and I can feel that pressure building up in the pit of my stomach that is usually the smooth slide towards a glass of white in an hour's time.

NonAstemia feeling a bit porky is better than feeling pissed right? No need to guilt trip about the bills for today, just imagine all that good, clean, non toxic stuff going into your tummy and not poison tonight. Worth every penny. What price on bright eyes, clear skin, and a sunny smile without having to wear a mask of pretend good humour? Very tiring that malarkey.

Can handle a few good calories whilst you get well, instead of all the empty ones. Bound to be exhausted, just hope you get a good night's sleep.

I now have another vision of JWN on the Monte Carlo rally, and even more scarily think she might enter!!

Mia not sure what time your DD goes to bed but how about you make it as early as you can tonight, then run a long bath & dig out a trashy, yet so satisfying novel. Then get early night.

Either eat with DD or as soon as she is in bed so the wine cravings don't get too strong (I find if I'm not hungry I don't want booze nearly as much).

Hang in there

mia can you go and have a bath - not a long one just literally lock yourself in the bathroom for ten minutes.

or go out for a walk with dd.

just something to break the mood/pattern/whatever you're in now so you can start again.

tonight i will not be drinking but i feel like i could eat the whole world so not sure i'll be losing any weight any time soon.

talk to us mia - you ok?

Thanks guys. Just banished DD upstairs for a while. She's been so good today too. This is my worst time of day now. Really not good at this bit. Feel like shit now and full to the brim with anxiety and anger. I'm going to make myself some food now.

good idea - have some food - mix things up.

i've been for a nice walk out in the fields with the dog and to visit a friend on the spur of the moment which was nice. heading over to my mum's shortly to cheekily pinch some dinner and get some cuddle time with my son.

tonight there is chocolate ice cream in the freezer and soft drinks in the fridge and i'll try and find something good to watch - anyone seen any good films lately?

when are you getting married isinde? must have missed that.

mia You mignt not be good at it.... YET but keep practising and you'll find that you get better at it, and that it seems easier. It's a new skill, and until you get there we'll be your stabilisers x

Mia just making a few changes to take you out of the same old, same old will help. .

[says she about to eat mega early tea with DCs ]

Mia - ten minutes at a time, then twenty, then thirty, for as long as it takes, and then you will be through the worst of it.

hang in there girl x

Isindie mate - it's one day - don't stress - BUT you do both need to get a grip very soon .

I ran away to Scotland to get married and even that took some organising after it ballooned from 2 to 30 people....................

Looong story

So madam, follow the list from msGee and you will have it covered.

But just to add.................

Transport - you, DP, DTs family?

Who is going to look after DTs during the ceremony - detail but crucial!

HONEYMOON!!!!!!!!! x

Thanks so much for the support you wonderful brave babes!

I made nice comfort food for DD and me. While a big thunderstorm passed right overhead and hail pelted down - I felt quite in sync with the weather - then when that had passed I listened to linkin park very very loudly, during which DD came down and danced round the kitchen with me. A bit of deafening angry angsty music can do wonders for the mood.

I've eaten now. Can't say the urge for some wine has gone completely but it's weaker, and almost matched by the urge for a buttery hot cross bun. I'll save that as a treat for later.

Feel a bit flat and bleaugh now, and my head is thumping a bit. But I didn't give in, thanks to you lovely ladies. If I hadn't been posting on here I'd be three quarters of the way through a bottle of white by now.

Thank you.

Help. MuM arrived with lots of wine. I dot know if I can do this

Oh MsGee you can do it you can!

MsGee just put off the first drink. Take it ten minutes at a time. Get a soft drink, lots of ice. You can do this. You want to do it. Let us know how you're getting on x

Pour yourself a big soft drink now and don't rush into anything - lots of ice and sip it slowly while you take stock. Don't just think fuck it and pile straight into a glass of wine - wait a while.

Phew Faire's here!

One drink at a time. Right. That sounds easier. If I can get till 9pm I think I'll be ok. That's only 12 lots of ten minutes. 12 is quite a lot though.

mia thanks for making me smile

Have you got any nibbles too? That's something to do with hands and mouth that isn't alcohol. Olives or something and a soft drink - keep nibbling, sipping, chatting, and escape every ten mins to post on here for a boost of resolve.