Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - BOINGing Into Spring, The Jesus(WhatNext) Way!

999 replies

Mouseface · 02/04/2012 20:43

Hello, tis me, Mouse Smile

I'm one of the Brave Babes aboard the Battle Bus, on the journey to sobriety.

We have drinkers, non-drinkers, inbetweeners, notquitesurers...... which is all fantastic. Smile

No matter who you are or where you're at in your personal quest to get where you want to be, come grab a seat and join in the natter, just jump right in. Smile

And, if you'd like to see where we've been up until now, HERE is a link to the last thread and the ones before it

See you soon.

OP posts:
swallowedAfly · 08/04/2012 14:59

i think i mean dam don't i?

spelling not my strong point it seems.

happy easter - so sorry about the big me me me posts! and fairly embarrassed now Blush if mn had a function for you to delete your posts i daresay the site would be a lot smaller.

Mouseface · 08/04/2012 15:47

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse Smile

Happy Easter to those who celebrate it as a religious event. Smile

Saf - i could read your posts for hours. I sit here nodding and thinking 'yep, that's me' because a lot of your posts, the words you type are a reflection of my thoughts, my past, my feelings.

We are very alike in some areas of our lives. Keep posting please, it's never a 'me me me' post on here, from anyone Smile xxx

So, my new phone (old one died) is registered to the Orange shop manager so I can't register it on-line. More shite to sort out.

The little things. They are what do the damage for me. They build up and up and up until they spill over into my life. I hate not being able to control those things.

I feel as if I can't stop things from building up but that's because they are out of my control.

My new diet (I've lost 8lbs in a week BTW) is strict so I can't guzzled wine, cider, beer or spirits. I enjoyed my glass at the spa yesterday, but that was all I wanted. I checked how many carbs were in it and there are 0.6g of carbs in that particular wine.

Take that thinking and add it to cider and you're looking at 4.6g per 100mls. Beers are about the same at 3g of carbs to every 100mls.....

If you are drinking that all day or/and night, it soon adds up and over the 20g daily limit you tumble.

Imagine what the foods are that you crave once the booze is flowing? You can eat so much carbohydrate in your diet and never burn it off.

That's contributed to my weight gain massively, never mind that my medication makes me constipated and hungry Blush

No idea where this is going so I'm shutting up to read back xx

OP posts:
chasingtail · 08/04/2012 15:58

Hi Mouse, well done on the weight loss. Tell me, are you following a specific diet or just calorie counting?

Mouseface · 08/04/2012 16:27

Hey Chasing Smile

Carb counting rather than calories. I'm using FoodFocus and a carb counter to keep me on track and with just a little bit of planning, you can eat more or less the same as before but you have to count the carbs.

I use this >>> www.low-carbdiet.co.uk/carbcount.asp?id=12 to help decide what to eat. Smile

If I can do it (self confessed chocoholic and bread monster) you can. Just takes a bit of clever planning.

I went shopping on Friday and was followed by the security guy in Morrisons. I thought he fancied me but he was curious as to why I was reading the back of everything I put in my trolley! Grin

OP posts:
Greyhound · 08/04/2012 16:32

Ok, start the sobriety again tomorrow. I will have wine tonight, but I will not touch the booze again until Friday.

My MIL is much better, thank goodness :)

Climbs into side car, ready for the last journey until Friday

Mouseface · 08/04/2012 16:38

Good news re your MIL Chasing, it's horrid when a family member is ill, it puts so much strain on everyone doesn't it. Not nice at all. xx

Take care of yourself tonight.x

OP posts:
Sunnywithachanceofshowers · 08/04/2012 17:14

Hello lovely Babes, I hope you are having a lovely day. Happy Easter to all those who celebrate.

I've had a lovely couple of days away with DH and MIL. I had half a pint of shandy last night with dinner and enjoyed the taste. I didn't want another one, which was fantastic.

Mouseface · 08/04/2012 17:21

Sunny - I like shandy too. It's refreshing and easy to drink. I find that when I'm craving the taste of beer, this works just as well!

Glad to hear that the weekend has been nice too, it really does make a differnce when life is good. Smile xx

OP posts:
helpyourself · 08/04/2012 17:47

saf, I'm not suggesting you volunteer or do a class for the good of the community.

You've mentioned 'unfulfilled or emotionally hungry'. You drink when you're not planning to and you don't like the consequences, you (we if you'll let us) need to find a way of feeling fulfilled. It would be easier if you weren't drinking, much easier, but if you feel it's what's stopping you getting sober, try and take some steps towards filling that hole.

SarahRT · 08/04/2012 18:58

Happy Easter babes, to whoever or is it whomever, whatever, [busmile]

Saf I can relate to so much of your post too. When I was trying to dig myself out of the abyss, everything it seemed that I tried to do either for me or the greater good ended up either a failure or just plain futile. Would have weeks of sobriety where I really got into a 'good idea' get hyper about it, put my heart and soul into it like a banshee. The inevitable happened and I would start drinking again. Lived in the middle of nowhere, DH worked away all week on exciting projects, I just met farmers and their poorly livestock. I didn't interact with normal women at all.

AA never worked for me either, they do a great job, but I just couldn't share with strangers which seems silly now, but I just needed help from someone that I had more in common with than drinking. I went once and it was one of the places like you described, it frightened me, and I was frightened already.
Feeling out of control, I agree with you Mouse, is one of the worst parts of this problem.

But I will say, that once you have been sober for a few months, things seem to come to you without really looking for them. Just serendipitous moments that you can just grasp. When you are ready Saf I am sure that it will happen for you. x

Hope all is well Blanket, was so pleased when I read the other day you had not had a drink, did a little YAY in my office.

To all other babes, have a safe rest of the holiday xxx

Isindebetterplace · 08/04/2012 20:30

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

bibbitybobbitybunny · 08/04/2012 20:30

Hello babes! Have missed so much I don't think I'm ever going to catch up. Has it been unfeasibly busy on the bus since Thursday?

helpyourself · 08/04/2012 20:44

Hi isinde and bibbity good idea to distract yourself, perhaps eat something sweet too?

How are you bibbity? You were not drinking for lent how's it gone today?

dementedma · 08/04/2012 20:46

I have eaten SO much I feel ill......
Diet starts tomorrow - again.
indie well done you!

bibbitybobbitybunny · 08/04/2012 20:53

Hello Helpyourself. Have had a little bit of wine but will stop soon, very rarely drink post 9pm anyway. Tomorrow is my bezzie's birthday and will be drinking to celebrate that. Day after will be a dry day as usual for a Tuesday [bugrin]. Reading back to catch up - lots been happening on the bus!

helpyourself · 08/04/2012 21:02

It's been very busy! Good Sunday night to all the babes.

venusandmars · 09/04/2012 08:50

Morning everyone. I hope that those who struggled managed to get through OK. I have a lovely busy day planned with my lovely dds Smile [busmile]

Sunnywithachanceofshowers · 09/04/2012 09:17

Morning all. I didn't do well last night, and feel like death today.

helpyourself · 09/04/2012 09:31

Morning all! Traditional bank holiday drizzle here [buhmm], but it's ok as we're just driving to mil for lunch.
Can I ask you for some support/ nagging? Writing about smoking and prevarication meant I didn't buy any yesterday-finished a pack last night. So far this morning has been great. I'd love to stop.

chasingtail · 09/04/2012 09:32

sending soothing restorative vibes to you Sunny Smile.

dementedma · 09/04/2012 10:00

Day 1 today.
AGAIN

MsGee · 09/04/2012 10:30

V quick post here, I am meant to be working whilst DH and DD watch a Barbie film Grin

This is going to be a selfish post, so apologies in advance.

Three weeks ago I did not think stopping was possible. I am now on day 16. I am honestly a bit flabbergasted as to what changed and how I have done this. Perhaps I have just seen that wine is not my friend.

I am no slimmer, no more beautiful, although my eczema is more under control.

The reason I did this though was for me and DD. (and DH Grin ). And already our lives have changed in small ways.

This weekend we have done activities every day (TWO yesterday). I have not sat in front of the tv wishing away the hours until 7pm when I can drink.

I have not snapped at DD because I am hungover (although I have occasionally because she is an annoying three year old!). I have taken pleasure in the early mornings in bed when she chats nonsense to me and sings me songs - because I am not hungover.

At night I don't seem to need to work to not drink and as I am actually up to date with work I have had all the weekend off. Working today will get me ahead for the week so I can have me time. At night I relax and deal with DD calmly and I do not argue with DH.

Its not been a perfect week. A client lost their core funding and that was hard. So I came on here and didn't drink. My family are all spending Easter together and didn't tell me (kind of my fault - I have made it clear to mum that I don't want to go to hers to be made to feel second best and stay in a hotel when sister stays at the house - so I am now just no longer invited). I didn't drink when I found out. I just figured that this is nothing new and has not in the past been solved by drinking.

I feel calmer. I feel like a good mum. Which is ironic because feeling like a shit mum was one of the reasons I drank.

I don't know what this post will do other than perhaps spur me on. Family are visiting this week and I will find it hard. So I need to remind myself that this is worth doing. A not worth throwing away so my folks have more company to drink with.

And to say to those who are struggling that it is possible. And in a short time it can change things.

Love and strength to you all xxx

SarahRT · 09/04/2012 10:51

MsGee as a matter of fact that post just made me cry, happy tears, I know I don't know anyone here really, but I am just so proud of what you said. No gushing, no real sunshine and lollipops, just total reality and showing total true grit imo. Fantastic just fantastic. xx

Sunnywithachanceofshowers · 09/04/2012 10:56

MsGee, I think you're beautiful :) you sound lovely.

Isindebetterplace · 09/04/2012 11:42

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.