Think Im falling for my FWB guy...

[JazzyButtons]

and I don't know what to do.

I had told myself before we started this that if I started falling for him I would cut things off, because it was never the agreement to be more than FWB, but I don't think I can actually do that, because that would mean not seeing him anymore.

Likewise telling him that I'm falling for him, because I don't think he wants a relationship at all, so if I said anything, that would effectively be ending things as well

the only solution i can see is to just carry on until I get hurt, while hoping that it will turn into something. which isn't really very likely is it?

You need to be careful. It's clear from your almost-last post that you have fallen into that dodgy area of reading things into passing comments he makes.

You FWB was drunk when he said "not being single" and the christening invite seemed like another passing comment- not followed through.

I'm sorry- I just think you have to either tell him how you feel, or take a step back. You are now emotionally involved and waiting for this to eveolve into something else.

if it doesn't, what will you do- and how long are you going to wait?

amelia, i know that I am in danger of getting hurt, but i have a feeling that it is turning into something, and I dont want to force it too soon, I'd rather let it happen gradually if its going to happen.

in terms of waiting for it to happen, I dunno, probably until I start driving myself insane thinking about it all the time. im not quite there yet haha

we're meeting tonight, and again on wednesday, so will see how this week goes.

there has been more 'serious' chat when sober, that is new, like he was telling me about his little girl, I knew about her anyway, but he never really mentioned her much, whereas he does now, and we've talked about past relationships and stuff like that, when we want to settle down etc, but nothing explicitly saying that it was going to be together IYKWIM?

You mean that normally you just get together, fuck, and nothing really important is ever mentioned- or wasn't until now?

I thought that FWB included the word friend not just benefits!

You seem to have a very low baseline.

I still think you are in a very weak position , but yes ISWYM by wanting to take things slowly.

yeah good point, it probably was more like acquaintances with benefits before, but its starting to become more, but maybe what's being added to it is friendship rather than a relationship... hadn't thought of it like that before.

If you can, and aren't already, keep him as one of your friends, and don't get too hung up on him alone.