Some of you know the story from previous threads. I was the one whose fwit dh signed up for on-line dating after me and dd wouldn't go owl-watching with him one night. You couldn't make it up. EA for years, but just upped the ante, and then had a holiday from Hell, after which I got him to move out. Briefly toyed with the idea that the marriage might be salvageable with counselling, so talked about the possibility without actually getting back together. Quickly became obvious that he had no intention of changing his abusive ways, lying about everything including stuff too trivial to be worth it, etc. Originally said lets wait two years then go for seperated two years route. Have thought that I don't want this 'hanging' for that long, I am anxious among other things that he will try and screw me financially, as I have larger equity in house that idiot of a solicitor knew about and could have taken steps to protect on house purchase. So have mentioned tonight the posibility of just getting divorced, me to petition with the minimum necessary to get it through, and to try and resolve finances without all monies used up in legal fees. Has agreed, and said, "yes, I was thinking that" which has been response to me suggesting no point in counselling etc. Got to have been his idea. I am not at all suprised, but still sad, that we are in this position through his fuckwittery, and he has had no interest in fighting for the marriage. I doubt if I could forgive his years of horribleness, but I am just...sad. Say something comforthing if you can. I just would like to see a point where I might be happy again.