Righ, bit of background, i'm a single mum of 3, been single for 6 years with one painful fling about a year ago.
So, a boloke i used to work with starts flirting with me on fb. I already know him obviously, cos i worked with him, but also cos he is a mate of the bloke I had a fling with, although they are not close mates.
I wasn't at all sure about starting a relationship with anyone, mainly because I have alot going on with the kids and moving etc atm, but I agreed he could come round as a mate a few times, and things progressed beyond mates (not sex though). He wanted/wants a relationship and after getting over me nerves and reservations about being hurt again, i agreed.
We went out for lunch yesterday and had a really lovely time and i was sure i'd made the right choice.
Later on the night he came round again, and met my kids. They did already know about him btw, and two of them had met him previously once while we were out and about. I would never normaly introduce my kids so soon. Kids loved him, he loved them, they all got on fab.
So, later on, on the night things got heated and we attempted to have sex BUT he couldn't keep an erection. I was honestly not at all bothered or worried about this and put it down to first time nerves or something. I would have quite happily forgot about it. However, his reaction is what has caused the problem.
He immediatly pushed me away and told me to leave him alone, wouldn't speak or look at me. Both sat back down on sofa and he wouldn't let me hold his hand or arm or anything and started saying how this was never going to work because it would happen again and i'd not put up with not having sex etc. He said it had happened a few times before, but that normally when he gets comfortable with someone it's ok. He was quite angry, not towards me but just in general. He then cried and I tried to comofrt him and he wouldn't let me.
I can't quite describe what I mean, but it was a bit like a grown man having a huge tantrum/sulk. I had no problem with what happened except for his reaction to it. I said that surely it was up to me wether i could put up wth it or not, but that i wasn't sure i could put up with his reaction to it every time it happened, and being pushed away and made to feel like i did something wrong.
He kept asking me to decide there and then if it was over. I said that i couldn't decide just like that, and it wasnt fair of him to ask. He said he needed to know, and so i said that he'd have to decide for himself then, and he said ok, it won't work. He kept saying it, like he was waiting for me to change his mind for him.
He eventually left and he has now txt this morning saying that he is sorry, and he overeacted but that he can't help it. He wants me to tell him if we are finished or not.
I don't know, i really don't. Part of me thinks he is worth another chance, but then part of me thinks that i don't need the hassle, if this is how he is going to be. Plus what if he reacts like that to other situations ?
I feel like I have been so stupid, yet again, and either desicion, would be stupid too.