my ex is being a knob -yes?

[workshy]

or am I just being over sensitive -I tend to see the bad in him all the time :(

it's parent's evening in 2 weeks

he won't answer the phone to me so I text him to tell him it's parent's evening, I'll be arranging the appointments after 6 (we both work full time so even though it's my day off I've requested evening appointments so he can come) would he like to come?
he text be back saying...

'I sure you'll be VERY pleased to know that I am unable to make it -so you can feed me whatever info you want as you always do'

wtf???

was I wrong in asking if he wanted to come or is he just being a knob?
why would I tell him about it if I was going to be pleased he isn't coming?

Total knob, hence why he is your ex presumably. Seems to be trying for a rise so I would text back "Thanks for letting me know" which will wind him up 10x more than any angry response would.

Well, he sounds pissed off. He should have replied nicely but we don't know the background.

I'd let it go and just reply as rookie suggested, or a plain OK.

Honestly, not sure why you would want to call even. Text is fine for these issues, and it's recorded.

As he might take 'thanks for letting me know' as being sarcasm on your part, I suggest you text back 'no problem' and make the next parents' evening or other school appointment to suit yourself before notifying him of the date and time.

I pressume it is something to do with last parent's evening

at the time he was being particularly nasty to me, so I said I wasn't prepared to go to parent's evening with him so either he could have the appointment and I would make an alternative one, or I would go and let him know
he said he would go and I 'couldn't' make another appointment as I obviously didn't trust him to tell me what was said I did trust him to tell me, I just don't trust him not to upset the teachers
he told me to go by myself but in the end DD was ill so I asked him if he wanted to go insted of me -he said no, he would come and sit with DD while I went
3 weeks prior to that I had had to change the locks as he had been going into my house while I was at work and then going through all my things, and sending me abusive emails on the back of what he found (bank statements he told me I had too much money to be chasing him for any etc etc but obviously not as nicely) so there was no way he was coming into my house when I wasn't there

we are nw much more civil and I thought it was all water under the bridge -obviously not

(sorry, very long and probably drip feeding)

No, it's not water under the bridge because this man is a shit. Treat him with calm polite contempt and expect nothing from him.

let him organise himself and appointment. if he wants to know anything, he can contact the school to get letters/info/emails.

Yes, he is being a knob!

My ex picks up our son from school on a Monday, Wednesday and Friday each week. His parent's evening is on Thursday this week and the ex has told our son that he doesn't see why he should go as it isn't his day to pick him up!?!

So he's being a knob too, there's a lot of it about :)

I never told dd's dad when parents' evenings, etc were happening at school. I'm not his secretary! I told him to ask the school to send seperate info to his address and it was up to him to arrange whatever he wanted which was nothing, but that's beside the point

Knob with a capital KN.