A rather complicated situation, but essentially my parents and sister/ bil and their children all live together but separately. I do not know my BIL well at all.
Went to visit them as they live in another country, this incident was at the end of the week.
We were going out for lunch for a celebration, D niece came downstairs to my parents bit of the house and realised she had forgotten something. She took 2 steps back upstairs and BIL ( her step father) shouted at her to shut up and basically told her not to go back upstairs. I needed the item she was going back upstairs for and so said I'd go and ask for it.
When I got upstairs I first of all looked for my sister as she was most likely to know where it was. She was in the bathroom, so made my way into the lounge and was greeted my a tirade of shouting along the lines of the fact that their son (2) was asleep and that by coming upstairs I ( and my niece) were going to wake him up. He was really angry ( and very loud). I told him that he was now making more noise than me and that I had only come to ask for something. He continued shouting and so I told him that he was being rude and that I found it unacceptable that he was talking (!) to me in that way. I then left.
We left for lunch (I was very upset) he did not come but my sister did - she didn't talk to me. After lunch my DH and I left to come home (ie back to England) and since then my sister hasn't spoken to me nor has her H and my parents don't seem to be talking to me either. What should I do?
I feel that I am being punished, but that I did nothing wrong. I feel that even if I had been shouting and stamping upstairs (which i certainly didnt) he had no right to talk to me in such a rude manner.
I'd appreciate any thoughts/ advice please - feeling very low.