The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

It's a bit late, but, have just come downstairs in a strop!
Tea on, will you join me, Isinde and Ma? or anyone who's up?
I am ok just cross!
xx

P.s Hello Ginger Welcome, this bus suits all shapes and sizes (lucky for me!), sorry you caught me in a fraught moment!

Morning . Thurso I hope you managed to get some sleep last night, or are you still fuming? I know I find it really hard to sleep if someone/something's made me angry - I need to let it out!

Welcome Ginger, I realise you said your name was Wrath but we have started calling you ginger. Which would you prefer? Well done for making that first post .

There is a logical reason why a person can't stop taking a substance. There is actually only one logical reason and it's because they are addicted to it. The good news is that you can beat that addiction and we have lots of advice to help you do that. Would you like to let us know what you have tried in the past, what has worked for you and what hasn't maybe?

Morning Babes!

Climbing out of the side-car where I have been hiding (getting a bit crowded in there )

Lovely sunny day here but I have the hangover from hell

When will I learn?!?

Hello lovelies

Have woken up with mild hangover and massive cold sore. The two things are not unrelated, I think.

I'm going to cancel my night out tonight as people will be drinking and I can't face it. I need to look after myself.

Wrath hi there. Blanket you're doing great :)

managed an 18 minute wobblerun in the woods with my visiting sis who weighs about 8 stone and has really shit hot running gear. I didn't even have matching socks
It was only 1.5k in 18 minutes which is a start but it feels crap. Why am I so hard on myself?

Morning and what a beautiful one it is!!

Wrath, so sorry that we didn't scoop you up straight away, but hopefully you will tip toe back when you are ready/exhausted with the battling.

Ma no idea, you are so gorgeous, being sober for me meant the end of beating myself up over a lot of things. Booze distorts perception in so many ways, usually to your own detriment. Life isn't perfect but it's infinitely better than waking up on a morning like this and wasting it either getting over a hangover or planning when I can have my next hit.

Garden is calling. Be safe everyone xx

ma you managed an 18 minute run. Which is 18 minutes more than I've run all year, so congratulations!

What you wore is immaterial as long as you were comfortable and not going to be arrested for indecent exposure. :)

I don't know why you're so hard on yourself, am sending you hugs xxx

I have gone right back and read the original first couple of pages of the thread started by JWN - I was oblivious to that thread at the time despite being a MNer since I think 2005 (have name changed 4 times I think). I guess I may have glanced at it and just thought "that's nothing like me" or something. Well now I've admitted that it was/is like me.

Ginger welcome - my favourite is white wine, I would have a bottle a night, every night. I haven't had anything for 2 weeks today. I am finding it not easy, but relatively easy. It's a kind of reverse psychology with me. I gave up 2 weeks ago when life was really really bad. It still is really really bad (DH has been diagnosed with parkinsons disease and suffers from terrible anxiety and I seem to go from one mini-breakdown to the next). Somehow i feel that if things get better I will hit the bottle again. It could be that because things aren't great at the moment, something in me has made me try to regain some control by giving up drinking. Does this make sense? I also feel that confronted with a glass at the next social occasion will be the beginning of the end. I would love to be able to have 2 glasses 3 times a week but I'm just too extreme for that.

Looking at some people's past posts and profiles I am humbled by the fact that many are fighting far harder battles than I am, and that life has asked you to handle some heartbreaking situations. Bless you all.

V Quick post - promised DH I would stop working 5 minutes ago!

Faire thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Your post meant a lot to me. I often feel that friends and family have forgotten about my baby so thanks you.

Quiet you are right - I need to focus on DD and being there for her 24/7! I am a fan of the its for awkward buggers who don't normally hug!

Isinde you are right about the work as is Faire ... we are but a paycheck away from worrying about the mortgage so now is not the time to take my foot off the break. And work is good for me on so many levels. I seem to have found a happy medium. An agency I work with is offering me lots of short term work which keeps things flexible and is actually more interesting work ... so, erm, I now appear to have three potential new contracts!!

I drank last night - just 1.5 glasses though. Don't feel proud of me for not necking a bottle, I have been too lazy to shop and we ran out of wine!!

quiet on here
are we all safe and well?

MsGee your last line made me laugh!! I will say well done on only the 1.5 glasses anyway......

I do kind of understand about your baby and it appearing like people have forgotten..... I've had 2 miscarriages, the second one and missed m/c at 13 weeks, and it seems that because I have my 2 healthy DC's no-one ever mentions the m/carried babies. I remember though. Your experience was so much more traumatic than mine and I'm sure your friends and family haven't actually forgotten.....

Hello Babes, am here. No booze tonight :)

Day 6

Evening, tis me, Mouse

Sorry not to read back but I just wanted to pop in before I go to bed and say I'm hoping to be around much more next week.

Sorry for the neglect lovely Brave Babes and a huge hello and welcome to those newer posters

xx

well done rain you are dong brilliantly - you too sunny
one glass of wine here tonight so will be leaving room in the sidecar for others and moving into the bus

Evening all you lovely babes,I have had some wine this evening but am not beating myself up over it.Have had a hugely productive day,ds picked up an award for some recepie fairtrade thing this morning followed by a flyby shopping trip with dd,whom I said within 6 months of being at secondary would be wanting a skirt for school,she said never but today I got to say I told you so teeheeheehee.

Have cleaned out chickens,been food shopping,made a proper scarecrow,cooked dinner and mr quiet has been decorating......phweew,god I feelike a domestic godess today :o

Right am off to bed soon to start over againg in the am,digging the allotment over to start some planting for the year.

To all of you doing so fantastically :o :o :o

Good girl Rain, proud of you. x And Onesunny.

As for the rest of you, foot tapping...

Seriously just the odd glass when you think back to a few weeks ago is just terrific. And the shift in gears. I love your post Quiet, there is real joy and boing in it, you will sleep like a babe tonight I'm sure. Actually I was going to ask you and forgot, did your GP offer any help when you told them about your drinking? Or did they just tut? If you don't want to say that's fine, I am just interested in the attitude with GP's in different areas. Ours are crap, which isn't surprising I suppose when throughout their training the do about half an hour on alcohol misuse.

I cleaned my chicks out too, Delia, my Lemon Brahma didn't seem too impressed think she is a bit of slut actually. Potatoes are chitting and did consider some digging but thought I would leave that as a nice surprise for ds when he gets home from Uni next weekend, I'm really kind like that

Mouse I am glad to see you again, been worried.

Sleep tight everyone. xx

Despite qa bit of a restless night with the two youngest DCs, for the first time...BOING!

I am turning the corner. Early days but I am starting to feel the benefits of a clear head

Morning babes.

Day 1. Have just spoken to DH and e has agreed to not have wine in the house anymore. The bottles that are arriving with food delivery today will be taken out of the house by him.

Today I am off to the park ladybird hunting (DD is ready to go so we will be the only people there at half 7!). Then cooking a lovely meal for friends, then working tonight.

My close friend gave birth to her baby a week ago. She is finding it hard so I'm pitting together a package to take round. It's odd I find it so difficult when friends are pg but not when the baby arrives. A friend who is a counsellor told me its because that's the stage I get stuck on.

Morning babes.

Day 2 here. Went over to my parent's last night, DB and his family are off back to Germany for a couple of year's so we had a farewell party for them. DS got a bit upset as he and my lovely nephew are v.close but by the end of the night they were both planning their visits during the hols.......flying over on their own! They're only 10 & 9
I was driving so soft drinks all the way, and troughing my way through my own body weight in profiteroles. Managed to decline the bourbon when we got home.

Lovely day here so I'm going to take a leaf out of your book Quiet and tackle the garden.........I say garden, it's more overgrown, dead or dying patio pots.

Well done to all those who abstained.....or controlled their intake........I know how blooming hard it is.

Hope everyone has a lovely day.......and just for today, I will not be drinking.

Hi All,

I have managed 4 nights without booze. Im deBLOODYlighted.
I feel better. I just feel better. Emotionally, physcially.... the whole thing.

I wonder if Im an alcholic or just too lazy to show some self restraint. Im wondering?

I do know that when I drink (which has been every night for over 10 years) - I drank a bottle. Never a glass.

Still. Im showing some self restraint and I like it.

Hope you are all ok.

blanket That's FAB! The first weekend is always the hardest, you should be very proud (more so for not resorting to the rose

well done blanket
great to read all the determination and successes on the bus at the moment.
We are going to mum's for the works of a roast lunch then watching the rugby.I am making fruit salad for pud as a nod to the diet, but the Yorkshires will cause havoc. I don't care - there is always tomorrow for lettuce leaves.