OK, have name changed for this.
A couple of days ago I came home unexpectedly when DP was getting our 2 DD's ready for school. The laptop was on the side in the kitchen (he was making sandwiches) and he switced it off the moment I got in, so I asked him what he was looking at. 'Its a secret' he says. When he gets back I ask him what he was looking at and he tells me 'porn'.
I ask WTF is he doing looking at that when the girls are around. He replies he wasn't looking at it, that it was on a different page and it was buffering. I think he goes into the lean-to for a fag and watches it but he denies that, he says he was 'getting it ready for when he got home' (bearing in mind i got in 45 mins before the girls had lo leave for school). I am disgusted in him that he can be looking at that whilst getting our daughters ready for school. WTF can't he wait until they're at school! I've found this really quite creepy and sleezy and I'm really quite freaked out about it.
So this ends up in an arguement where he is defending his 'use' of porn and blaming it on me. We've had very missed matched bed times recently mostly due to my fucked up shift patterns at work and haven't had much of a sex life. But he didn't seem to get that it was the timing of it that has angered/creeped me out so much. It just seems so fucking....desperate.
The arguement descends along the lines of 'we don't have sex any more, its all your fault' and then he says 'my sex life is none of your business any more'. My heart dropped through the floor.
He tried to take it back and say he meant that I have made his sex life none of my business. Crap. I can't look at him. I talked with him later that day and explained more calmly why I'm so pissed off with this. He seemed to get it, but still no words of explaination and no apology. The last 2 nights I've got home from work and he's gone to bed 20mins later. I feel I need to 'deal' with this but don't know what to do.