Smitten with dp but he's a bad, baaad kisser...help!

[JingleBallsAndMistletoe]

Hello, i'm after some advice, in fact i'm desperate for it!

I've found myself a amazing man and altho I cant find many faults he is THE worst kisser i have ever met and i dont think i can take one more of them.

Every single time we kiss i have to wipe my face after, and even if i could get past the dribbling the actual smooch is awful too, he just pokes his tongue in and out or if its a full on snoggy snog he'll stick it out and just leave it out, I understand i sound really harsh but I was hoping some wonderful mn advice would help me.

I've tried to tell him re the tongue, and have done the whole let me kiss you thing and now i'm at a loss, The odd thing is, the sex is fab..as long as i get him to kiss my neck instead of my mouth so how do i go about making the kisses better? I've started turning my head now(not meaning to) and feel awful so please, any tips?!

Thank you xx

still waiting for the update, hope it went ok!

Carwash - arf!

I think I got off with him too.

I had a bad kisser too. Dribbly kisser. (Sex was good also funnily enough.) I wiped my mouth on his shirt and apologised for doing it but he kind of got the message. (I'm not a very subtle person.....)

I've had a few really bad kissers, jutting in and out tongues at full speed, mixed with a ton of spit and washing machine on full spin lip movements. Fucking vile. I never saw these men again, just put me right off. I always said something though, pulled away saying ewww far too much Tongue etc.

Interested to know how it went op!

Oh no she's drowned in the spit!

Like notmostpeople i married a bad kisser . Its something i was aware of straight away and tried endlessly to correct , ie , let me kiss you , i dont like being kissed hard , dont like tongues ect .

It never got better , in fact it got worse and i eventually divorced him . As well as having to keep being told about his disgusting kissing he very soon had to be also told , dont touch me there , thats to hard , i dont like that . Never again .

Sureley he notices you wiping your face ?

I'm going in!

OP! Are you theeeeeeeeere?

Splooosh

Glad you made it back, tall - any sign of the OP amongst the reeds?

I would also say you gotta tell him but would definitely lead with....you know how much i enjoy our sex life, love it when you do this, you turn me on etc boost his ego a little bit then explain that your prefer to be kissed this way and literally show him. Think you if your as close as you say you should be able to gently explain without him taking offence. Good luck

C'mon OP, update please!

Sluuuuurrrrrpp......

I do so hope that, unlike some who shall be nameless, the OP will return with an update.

FFS, I'm still trying to come to terms with the fact that it's probable I'll go to my grave without knowing what a 'piano wig' is, and it really will be too much if I don't find out how to cure a baaaad kisser just in case I happen across one here or in the next/afterlife.

It can be done!

Even a first kiss can be rewritten as I told DH I wanted a proper date and a proper first kiss (post ONS). It was so great my knees actually gave way!

Yet after that there have still been less than wonderful kisses. I broached it as a need to warm me up and just as he'd never dream of suddenly ramming his cock inside me, I didn't want sudden and excessive tongue kissing. I believe I've even told him a dog would slobber less and um... easy on the face rape

I stuck with it because he is mindblowing in bed, I'm in love with him and he was mature enough to hear me out and man enough to want to make me happy. Once in a blue moon I still have to pull away and say it's really not working for me but it's mostly sorted.

One thing that really helped was asking for 'church tongue' (see 'The Wedding Singer') which was essentially practising how he'd snog me in front of his family when we got married :)

I taught mine

I couldn't see a thing, Izzy. I need windscreen wipers on my specs.

I think OP is too embarrassed to update because, despite excellent mn advice, she's too chicken to have broached the subject with Mr Slobber.

Either that or she's too busy giving him lessons in lurve...hope it's the latter

my hubby (we split in jan) was a SHIT kisser! We were together 6 yrs. I tried n tried telling him... he didnt change it. now we have split... not coz of kissing but it was piss poor!

OI!!

Be Nice to me I've been having a pants week!!!

I'm sorry i didnt update, I've been staying with my nan since saturday as she managed to fall down the stairs and break her leg. Very glad to come home as could barely get signal on my phone let alone posh telly or internet!

I may have sort of chickened out as i only could bring myself to tell him the bad kissing part..and dispite putting his nose out of joint for a hour or so he was ok, I probably could have done it nicer but ended up holding his head still and pulling away every time his tongue went all jabby (makes my stomach turn thinking about it) Its not the best but its now much better,- I even reward him and tell him when i've had a nice one(patronising bint), shall still keep working on it!

I also need to work on the dribble....

Wiping your mouth on his shirt is priceless paybackforfree!

I am making a point of wiping my face after a kiss, and when brave saying 'you've dribbled!!'

Thank you for all your advice! keep it coming!!

Cough cough cough

Hi Jingle, your poor nan. What a lovely GD you are. I've just thought of another suggestion. Try a kissing exercise with no tongues. None at all. Just lips. Radical eh? I've just remembered a boyfriend who used to kiss like that - t'was wonderful!

Oh god, this sounds like my first ever kiss.... Ugh, am horrified to remmeber,. i was 13 and he was 15, he was like a fookin washing machine and slobbery and just ugh. Oh my god, i feel sick remembering.

Turned me off kissing for about a year! UGH

Hmmmm, there isnt much else you can do when you show him how you like it and he still isnt getting it.
But the kissing is a big deal to me....

Sex will not be as often, but kissing is always there, tho me and DH rarely play tonsil tennis anymore... unless its in the process to teh deed. LOL

God love you.... at least the sex is good!

You just have to show him how to do it properly, it's a small thing to learn really.

Simple.

a bad dribbly kisser is awful :( but a good kisser is amazing

if everything is perfect then you need to say something

maybe say i like it when you kiss me but i love it if you did this and then explain/kiss him the way you want

i have recently met a new man and the first night we kissed on and off for 4.5hrs and it was fireworks - he kisses me and i melt and prob far tmi but literally cream my knickers

oh god, did i really type that

'makes mental note NEVER reply on relationships when been drinking lol'

but its true - got to have good kissing

i had a dribbler and mouth sucker when i was about 15/16and was piratically swallowing his salivia and made me want to throw up so i chucked him

Ooh, another tip - be higher than him or on top. That way it's easier to come up for air. He's less likely to dribble on you too unless he's Slobberman, with the Spittle that Defies Gravity

Now come back soon with an update or we'll start being nasty again

Blondes, your input on this thread is, imo, absolutely essential