My Alcholic mother is apparently dying. I'm more worried about what is going to happen if she doesn't.

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I've namechanged as I'm ashamed to admit my mother is a raging alcholic who lives in a house fit for the life of grime and even though she has asthma and copd she continues to smoke 20+ a day and drink.

I haven't seen her in over a year, I've spoken to her a couple of times a week where she tells me she is working, attending AA meetings, doing her housework.

She colapsed today and is now in hospital, my cousin was called (we have no living family left apart from my cousin, me and my mum)

My cousin went to the house to gather some things and was apparently "horrified" at the state she has been living in, upstairs is completly trashed and downstairs has been ,ade into a makeshift bedroom, no food in the house and one of her cats appears to be dying.

I don't know what to do, I have relationship issues with her and one of the reasons for distancing myself is because I don't want my 2 children seeing her destroy herself with smoking and drinking.

I don't know what to do

punctuation a bit crap there, sorry.

Yet more fantastic advice, I really appreciate everyone taking time to post their advice and support.

I'm going to leave the thread after this post so just wanted to say a final thank you.

I have decided to concentrate on my children and our little family, they have no grandparents or extra family, it really is just "us".

The most regretfull thing I feel is my children never knowing how lovely it is to have grandparents, an extra home to visit and play, some one apart from mum to take you out and treat you here and there, a different relationship to learn and build on.

I didn't take that from them, I have no control over that so I need to continue giving them all my spare time and energy and focus on us.

Good luck OP. Are there any old people nearby you could befriend? I have my old lady next door I look out for. My dss have a gran and nana left but they still like to get to know other oldies.

Goodbye and you take care of yourself xx