Is this passive aggressive or something else?

[Ineedadollar]

I have a relatively new boyfriend. He continually uses phrases like "sorry for only trying to do the best for you" and "you make me feel like I can't do anything right" "you're lucky that I can cope with all the baggage you have" or "my life is so shit" and sort of flounces off for a few hours/days because I have apparently said the wrong thing (I'm never sure what)
Fwiw, I'm not an arse but reading back through old text messages it makes me sound like I am. Is he trying to make me think I am an arse and should be grateful for his presence in my life?! I'm 99% sure the relationship has run its course tbh but I wondered what kind of behaviour this is, why he might be doing it, and why it makes me uncomfortable? I escaped a DV scenario not that long ago so might be oversensitive to manipulative behaviour.

Go girl! Let us know how you get on x

I bet all his previous gf's were really nasty bitches too

Your sense of relief will be tangible when you end it (bet you a fiver ).

He sounds a needy, self-pitying victim.

Dump him and report back to us

I'm still in the relationship because I don't like upsetting people

But you are upsetting someone... YOURSELF!!!

It is early days in a new relationship, at this stage, you owe nothing to anyone but yourself. If you feel uneasy, unsure or uncomfortable, then you are probably right, and you should extract yourself from the relationship.

Oh bin the whinyarsed loser and don't feel guilty. It doesn't matter if he doesn't like being binned. You owe him nothing. It's fine to dump someone you just don't want to be with and you are not obliged to give him a reason, or another chance, or 'talk it through'.
If he makes a pest of himself you can call the police on his sorry arse.

"Because you sap the sunshine out of my life and drain my soul of every ounce of joy"

Love that.

OP, I hope you have chucked his whiny arse already today, or yesterday even.

Well I did it... It has not been well received. I am wrong and should meet with him to talk about it. Um, I don't think so.

No, you don't have to do anything

And he was never going to receive it "well" was he ?

Good for you. If you don't want to discuss it ie. listen to his whining and blaming, don't

Well he's not changed his tune then, has he? You're still oh so wrong about everything . I don't know why he wants to continue a relationship when you spend so much time not being up to scratch...

Well done! Don't give him another moment of your time or head space.

well done you... the fact that your twat radar pinged is brilliant and the fact that you acted on it super-brilliant for the future.

Well done YOU!!!

Let's celebrate your gain and his loss

If he wants to talk about it face to face direct the twat to his nearest mirror 'cos you've made up your mind and you sure ain't up for any discussion of your decision which is final, as in 'you're history, mate, NEXT!'

Hat's off to you... let's have another

Whoop!

Now enjoy the coming spring and experience the joy of not having a whiny, needy sorry-arsed loser in your life.

Congrats! Have poured a glass of to toast you